Friendship Is Not Always Forever

June 10, 2016

Friendship is part of our lives. It is born, it grows and it ends at the same time we grow and change. By learning to accept that our relationships with others go through different stages we can enjoy them more intensely, since we know that friendships can end for different reasons.

Take care of your friends, they are a treasure, and we never know how long they will share their life with us. And like with any treasure, suffering from the loss or distance will be less if we made every moment count while it lasted.

Who our friends are

We often hear the word friend, and a multitud of phrases about them. However, most of these references do not give the value of friendship or the depth of feeling involved. A friend, is someone with whom we share a stage in our life, so to speak, a part of our path of life.

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It isn’t necessary to mention the importance of friendship in a person’s life. Friendship fills us, enriches us and makes us grow.

What does friendship need?

Friendship, like a plant or any emotional relationship, also needs time, care, interest, sincerity and contact. The feelings between friends should be caring, affectionate, and loving, filling the relationship with closeness and special gifts.

In addition, a friendship is born and is maintained when we share something in common, for example, life values, hobbies, political or religious ideas, children of the same age, etc…

“Friendship is one soul dwelling in two bodies; a heart that lives in two souls. “

-Aristotle-

However, often, friends are lost, remaining only in the memory of the good old times, left behind, almost forgotten in a stage that already passed.

How long does a friendship last?

Obviously, there is no definite or limited time for a friendship. However, there is usually an explanation as to why it ended, was forgotten or got lost in the past and remains only in our memories.

A friendship is born when we come together because of common values, projects, ideas or ideals. This unites us as we spend time together over long conversations, about work or fun. Many friendships arise at a certain stage of our lives, and often, end when this stage is over.

A stage ends when there is a change in us, when we evolve, mature, grow or simply adapt to new circumstances.

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Each stage has its values and its needs

As children, friends play a very important role, however, we do not know who we really are, or how to direct our lives. When we find our path, we may end up distancing ourselves and finding other friends with whom we can share this new stage.

This process repeats itself throughout life, as often as we change our values, mature or decide to turn our lives around. Each time we change, our surroundings change.

There are several distinct stages in life which can lead to a change of friends. For example, childhood and school, adolescence and the choice of studies, upon reaching adulthood, joining the work force, parenthood, job changes, having a partner or changing partners, crises and retirement, among others.

“However long the storm, the sun always shines again in the clouds.”

-Khalil Gibran-

Friendship is not forever

At all stages, friends make a big impression. One so deep that we don’t ever want it to end, however, is part of the law of life.

We will share our lives with those who share our values. And so we can say we are friends because our paths have crossed in life and continue to be friends until our paths go in different directions.

Still, friends remain in us forever, by what we learned with them and everything we experienced and shared. Friendship is part of our growth and without it, it would be impossible to evolve.

And sometimes, this development requires each one go along their own path, rhythm, process and follow their own values, ending a period of what was a wonderful friendship while it lasted.