The Best Things in Life Aren’t Planned, They Simply Just…Happen

· February 3, 2016

The best of life serves no plans or programs. Most times we just get carried away, letting things happen by themselves, with the subtlety of chance, with the openness of someone who is humble and expects nothing but really…dreams everything.

You may have already heard of the law of attraction. According to this principle, people can achieve or become what they want because of the energy that emanates from our own thoughts and emotions. From this perspective comes the famous phrase “you become what you think” and the belief that, in the universe, there is a kind of law of attraction in which thoughts themselves make us achieve our goals.

Leaving aside this kind of mind-universe attraction, we could say that life is a wonderful cluster of coincidences where happiness can hide in any and every corner. However, not everyone may be so receptive to see it.

It’s not magic, but rather simply opening, wanting to see, getting out of your comfort zone and opening those inner doors that we all have to allow the good to come in. If one is aware that they deserve to be happy, then they’re doing something great for themselves.

When we recognize and nurture that belief, things can start to be much easier. Because life is not planned and often goes against the plans we’ve made with our wishful thinking. Life just happens and you need to get on that train to experience it to the fullest.

1. First become what you are looking for

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You may dream of finding your perfect match. That person accompanying you each day with love, who knows of your desires and goals, loves your smile and being sheltered by your hugs.

You know how you’d like them to be: an emotionally mature, funny, understanding, well-spoken, humble and fearless person who doesn’t fear confronting their voids.

So what you think if instead of “dreaming it” you yourself reached all those dimensions you want in your loved one? Become someone worth spending a lifetime with. Be that which you dream because if you feel good about how you are, the happiness you contribute to the person by your side will be more complete.

2. Allow yourself the things you deserve in order to get what you need

No, we’re not talking about the law of attraction. It’s something much easier. Think, for example, of those people who have been through emotional failure and decide to close the doors of their heart. And what’s worse, they build themselves a shell and live in mistrust and resentment.

No one deserves to live like this, let alone in a jail that is self-created. The key is to start knocking down our interior walls: I deserve to be happy, I deserve time for myself, I deserve to enjoy my hobbies, to go out into the world, I deserve to laugh and look good.

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When someone rewards themselves and gets what they really deserve, they re-open themselves to the world and they become more receptive to what surrounds them. In the end, when they least expect it, life brings them what they need.

Is it magic? Are they the invisible strings of the Universe? No, its staying positive, being receptive and maintaining mental and emotional openness.

3. Beware of high expectations, and just let them go

Beware the house of cards of  “happiness is forever” and “no one will ever hurt me.”

Life has no reins, no one can control what is going to happen tomorrow. Dreaming is not bad at all. It nourishes our hope and by extension the strength and resources we use to achieve our goals. However, we must be humble and learn to face life with more flexibility.

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But “getting carried away” in no way means putting ourselves on autopilot and letting things happen by chance. We all take the helm of our lives, know which way to go, and we will guide ourselves each day weathering winds and storms. With strength and courage.

But remember… get yourself carried away by the gentle winds, leave your comfort zone and progress through these unknown islands, keeping an open mind, eyes open and a receptive heart. Life is not planned, it just happens, but we have to know when an opportunity is in front of us because sometimes life is not going to give second chances.

Image courtesy: Pascal Campion