The Art of Seduction
Seduction has been associated with being misleading and sometimes evil, but in many cases it is done unconsciously and involuntarily and is almost always done with the goal of mutual emotional benefit. In fact, loving someone means being seduced by that person.
To improve in our art of seduction, it is key to know what we do and why we do it, what expressions cause us discomfort, and also what doesn’t produce results.
The key to seduction
In his book The Art of Love, Ovid threw in some hints on how to find the woman he loves and how to win her love. It’s quite handy, and we recommended practicing seduction in those places where it’s appropriate such a parties, theaters, forums, victory celebrations, banquets, New Year’s, etc.
Ovid’s writings and the Kama Sutra, both classic manuals in the art of seduction, give us some recommendations on how to gain the interest of another person. Some of the suggestions:
- Give thoughtful gifts (either emotional or material).
- Do not contradict them on the first dates.
- Sit close to him/ her or dance next to them.
- If you can, arrange a meeting so that the person knows your interests beforehand.
Seducing is the process of provoking others’ interest, arousing curiosity, generating the desire of others to get to know us, making others feel welcome in our company so they seek us and want us. In this way, seduction is not only used to get a sexual or stable partner, but also to keep them.
But…what is seduction?
Seduction is provoking another’s interest and transforming it into desire; getting someone to notice us positively and with curiosity.
It is permanently installing ourselves in the imagination of another, and causing another’s desire to know us to grow constantly. It’s deeding desire and generating the expectation of the possibility.
And physical appearance…is it necessary to be handsome or beautiful?
No, it’s not. In fact, some people who have a good physique do not take care of other aspects of their personality which eventually become deficiencies.
Seduction is the process of enhancing our strengths and hiding our defects, even though we accept those defects. You only have one chance to make a first impression so:
- Take care of your personal hygiene
- Have an fresh and healthy look
- Make small changes to your image if necessary.
Beyond that, just be yourself. You can adopt tricks from other people but with keep your own personality. It’s not copying, but rather becoming the best version of ourselves.
And body language?
A picture of someone can be appealing to us, but their body language and the dynamics of their body is what determines whether we become more attracted or completely disinterested in them. This is highly dependent on each individual’s subconscious world; we are all attracted to specific behavior patterns.
What happens if we’re rejected?
You can keep trying if you notice that maybe the person was not very receptive or if the circumstances weren’t the most ideal. Maybe your skills are not as developed as you think. Maybe you started with very high goals, you have not tried the right way. Keep in mind not to repeat your mistakes. You should practice more.
Contrary to the myth that “being bad is more attractive,” studies have shown that the most valued traits are sincerity, honesty, understanding, loyalty and trustworthiness while the least valued are falseness, pettiness, cruelty and dishonesty. Keep these in mind and get out there and flirt!