Seeking Peace and Happiness? Avoid These Toxic Situations...
Although we are all familiar with the saying “do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” inevitably there will be moments when the way others treat us can cause us to suffer. Although they may not always mean to, it still doesn’t mean that we have to put up with it.
Personal relationships are never easy. Whether it be a couple, parents, co-workers, friends, siblings or even strangers. It’s so easy to be sucked in by “toxic” people these days who take up all of our positive energy. Therefore, we offer the following advice to help you avoid those who may cause you suffering.
A byproduct of improving your relationships with others is feeling much better about the relationship you have with yourself. Stand up for yourself by not getting involved in the following toxic situations…
Meaningless arguments
Some people love to debate and argue, this is very obvious. But that doesn’t mean that you have to be accepting of it or participate in these meaningless fights. Remember, you don’t have to explain yourself all the time, “your friends don’t need your explanations and neither do your enemies”.
Don’t waste your valuable time (nor the time of others) arguing about little things that either don’t matter or can end up causing even more drama. Once you realize that you have landed in a questionable conversation, the best thing you can do is to slam on the breaks.
Negativity
As we have said before, the world is full of unhappy people who are always looking for the bad in everything. But you decide for yourself if the glass is half-full or not in every situation. Remember, pessimistic people are not the ones who are going to help you reach your goals, they are looking to put a stop to them. Pessimism is contagious and robs you of your energy.
Making comparisons
Could there be anything worse in the world than making comparisons? Only if you get sucked in to their games! It does you absolutely no good to compare yourself or what you have to others because everyone is an individual. The only person that you have permission to compare yourself with is the “you” from the past. This is the only definitive measurement you have in realizing just how much you have achieved and overcome throughout your own life. Don’t allow yourself to use anyone else as a comparison for where you think you should be in life.
Intimidation
People who use their words, gestures or actions to intimidate you never make good company. These people want to use up your mental, emotional or physical power in order to take away what’s best from you and strip you of your virtues. No one has the right to make you feel bad or belittle you. Stand up for yourself and don’t allow others to step on you in order to get ahead, no matter what methods they use.
Resentment
It is never worth keeping this emotion guarded within our hearts. That vital energy that you count on everyday should be used for productive and positive ventures. Always remember that it’s better to ask for forgiveness, forgive, and turn the page to stop yourself from holding onto these painful feelings, living in the past, or focusing on pride.
The problem with yesterday is that we can end up clinging to it instead of moving forward. This is how people are able to use your past mistakes to poison your present and make you feel miserable. Life is short, don’t keep a tight hold on yesterday. Instead, go forward and continue traveling along your path. And don’t discount all of the things you have done or feel sorry for yourself. Learn from your mistakes and use these lessons in the future so that you don’t repeat them.
Obstacles that keep you from being happy
Everyone deserves to be happy, even you! Remember this and repeat it everyday if necessary. What others think or say about you doesn’t matter. No one has the right to throw anything in your face or judge you for anything you’ve done. Happiness can be short-lived or everlasting, depending on our attitude.
Be grateful for everything that you have and don’t let jealousy or tough times dampen your days. There is nothing and no one like you who can take away your happiness!