I Lose Myself, I Seek Myself, and Sometimes I Find Myself

I Lose Myself, I Seek Myself, and Sometimes I Find Myself
Gema Sánchez Cuevas

Written and verified by the psychologist Gema Sánchez Cuevas.

Last update: 29 March, 2022

Sometimes I lose myself in a thousand digressions, in worries from my daily life, giving my attention to people who do not deserve it, to circumstances that have no importance whatsoever. I am afraid of things that will probably never happen, I drown myself in details, without focusing on what is really important.

Each day, I need to stop for a second to look inside myself, my essence, who I really am, to seek that which is hiding behind smiles that I do not feel, behind looks that cannot be hidden.

I only find myself from time to time and see who I really am, but I feel very small, so much so that I hide again so that nobody sees me, to use a smile that is not mine as a shield, a smile that I have borrowed from a person that is not me.

“He who does not fit in the world is always close to finding himself.”

-Hermann Hesse-

I lose myself in the speed of things

For most of us, reality is something that happens at full speed. We barely have time to do the millions of tasks that we set out to do, we run to get to work, to go pick up our children from school, to go to a dinner outside our house, at times even to go on vacation. But where is that space for finding ourselves?

Sad Woman Thinking

We have to try to put on the brakes against the speed at which things happen, look for our space, create that place for enjoying what we like the most. For a while, breathe, look around yourself, observe the sky, the clouds, the trees, and enjoy.

“I’m trying to find myself as a person, sometimes that’s not easy to do. Millions of people live their entire lives without finding themselves.”

-M. Monroe-

Listen to your heart

Our heart often speaks to us, but we are more focused on what our head is telling us, on all the things that we have to do, on going quickly. But if we stop for a moment to listen to each one of its beats, we will take the pulse of our life.

What is your heart telling you? Listen closely, because with each beat, it is whispering words that we sometimes do not want to hear or that make us afraid, but which are necessary.

If your heart is telling you that something in your life has to change , it is time to stand up to your fears and make the impossible possible. Being afraid of something changing is human, but in general, we learn from these changes and we come out stronger than we were before.

“All that is gold does not glitter, not all those who wander are lost.”


Allow yourself to be caressed by solitude

Solitude is a necessary state sometimes: it helps us to find ourselves, to really know who the person is that lies deep within us. When we break away from the noise, from other people, we learn to listen to silence, to listen to what we are thinking, and to reflect on our beliefs.

Woman Hugging Globe

When we are alone, we are able to appreciate the little details in the things that are around us, to see the countless nuances in life and to appreciate its colors, its scents, its flavors. Seek that moment of solitude to find yourself and your deepest thoughts; let solitude caress and comfort you.

Find your place

Throughout our lives, we lose ourselves many times, we make mistakes, we fix them, we get things right, and we make mistakes again. But we always learn, because with each step that we take, we come ever closer to the place that we are meant to occupy in this world, to that place that we cannot escape from.

Maybe the moment has come for you to wake up to life, to put aside the idea of winning and losing, to open your eyes, and see where we are and who we are. Finding oneself means trusting , accepting oneself, and above all else, getting in touch with our deepest feelings and desires.

We spend too much time thinking about finding a place where we feel comfortable, but when we find it, we know with certainty that it is the right place, that nothing will be able to move us from that spot where we are because our roots have already grown and they have found what we so longed for: ourselves.

“When you find your place, you cannot leave again.”

-A Place in the World-

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