After So Many Hard Times, Now I Just Enjoy Life

February 14, 2016

There comes a moment in our lives when we get tired of dramaOf our own drama that we have instilled in our heads and of the drama that surrounds us. We also feel tired of evaluating ourselves, of wallowing in mistakes of the past and opening wounds that make us look like masochists.

There are people that always know how to balance themselves and don’t turn their lives into a valley of tears. Others, however, have traveled an infinite number of times to this valley of tears

“You have to believe in yourself, that’s the secret. Even when I was in the orphanage, when I was roaming the street trying to find enough to eat, even then I thought of myself as the greatest actor in the world. I had to feel the exuberance that comes from utter confidence in yourself. Without it, you go down to defeat.

Life is a play that does not allow testing. So, sing, cry, dance, laugh and live intensely, before the curtain closes and the piece ends with no applause.”

-Charlie Chaplin-


But suddenly, in some people, weariness appears, a profound laziness that keeps them from wanting to go down the same route of emotions that are too strong. It could be that they just can’t anymore, or that they’ve learned that it serves no purpose. Their energy to keep on fighting leaves them. 

So you find yourself at this point, and you are restless because of this new sensation that you feel, you’re ready for a new stage, which will be magnificent.

What will this new freedom be like?

  • You’ll start to act not for others’ approval, but for what really pleases you.
  • If someone doesn’t call you or write to you, you don’t think that something is wrong with you. You think that this person was not for you, and move forward with a new and marvelous indifference.
  • You’ll think less and feel more.
  • You’ll start to appreciate the little things in life.
  • You’ll close stages of your life with a lock and key.
  • Thinking of yourself will no longer feel selfish.
  • You’ll stop comparing yourself to others. You will be the mirror that you’ll look at to correct and improve yourself. You will be the reference point to improve your life.

  • You’ll be thankful for constructive criticism and you’ll learn to do it yourself.
  • You’ll be assertive enough to say no to a party you don’t want to go to with people you don’t want to go with.
  • You’ll give without expecting to receive, but you’ll learn to know where the limit of generosity and interest is.
  • You’ll stop analyzing comments and slights against you. You’ll use that time to plan important things.
  • You’ll improve in every way you wanted to, because you know that if you don’t do it, nobody else will do it for you.
  • Making yourself the victim will serve no purpose. You’ll take the reins of your life and stoically accept defeats. They’re yours, and you shouldn’t have to explain them.
  • You’ll ask for help only when you know that it exists and that there are people who will do it from the heart.
  • You’ll know that few friends would offer a bed and security. Having too many friends is not the same as being less alone.
  • Your values will be strengthened with every step you take.
  • You’ll substitute laziness for willingness.
  • You’ll use technology to communicate, but you won’t be a slave to it.
  • Destructive criticism will be read and put away without another thought.
  • You’ll wonder how you’ve been able to lose so much time pleasing people that you don’t really care about, how you have let them influence you in such a personal way with certain comments. But it will only last a few minutes, because you’ll realize how happy you are right now.
  • Problems will come to you, but your experience will you help you to relativize and solve them. You won’t worry, you will act.

  • Maybe you didn’t deserve so many disappointments in your life, but you’ll realize that such pain has transformed into maturity, calm, and serenity.

“And now, now, at this moment in my life, I don’t really want anything. Just the tenderness of my love and the glorious company of my friends. Some fits of laughter and caring words before I go to bed. The sweet memories of the ones who’ve passed away. A few trees outside the windows, and a section of sky that shows the light and the night. The best verse in the world and the most beautiful music. Otherwise, I can eat cooked potatoes and sleep on the floor while my conscience is calm.”

-Ángeles Caso-

Now that you are happy to know yourself and others (although others don’t matter so much anymore), they’ll find this new side of you to be irresistible. Because there’s nothing more magnetic than feeling good in your own skin and your mind.