Forgetting is Hard for the Heart

Forgetting is Hard for the Heart
Sergio De Dios González

Written and verified by the psychologist Sergio De Dios González.

Last update: 28 July, 2022

If you put the heart and reason on a scale, there will always be an imbalance when it comes to memories. Because despite the passage of time, there are still some people who have made a hole in our hearts. A hole which makes the heart beat harder, with a simple vision of the past, with the memory of a word whispered to our ears.

Your mind will want you to be rational. It will want you to forget that person who hurt you and left. But your heart doesn’t forget. It keeps reminding you, every time it beats blood to your body, how that person made you feel, how the world was at that moment.

When we experience a romantic breakup, reality tells us that that person we love doesn’t love us anymore. They don’t seek us out, call us or kiss us. But the heart in its eternal battle as a hopeless romantic reminds us of the day we kissed for the first time, or we made love sheltered by the darkness. That battle between reality and our memories is what keeps us from forgetting.

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