You Often Attract What You Give Off
You can’t avoid bad news or potentially toxic people. But if you accept that you can’t change the majority of the situations you have to deal with each day, you’ll realize that the way you experience them depends on your attitude. Remember, you often attract what you give off.
In other words, the outlook you have towards your surroundings from the moment you wake up influences most of what happens to you throughout the day. When you get up in the morning with a positive attitude, you’ll notice how you seem to hear more good news, or that the hours simply go by with much less difficulty.
It’s all in your mind
Absolutely everything you feel and think passes through your skin and, in some way or another, expands outwardly. What’s in your mind automatically goes out, whether it’s voluntary or not. It’s a law of life that can either play in your favor or against you, depending on the emotions, feelings, and thoughts that come out of you.
In this sense, when you feel depressed, your body notices and reacts. This can manifest in behaviors, physical ailments, lack of energy, etc. If, on the other hand, you’re thinking positive thoughts, your body will also express this in your general well-being.
“What was really needed was a fundamental change in our attitude toward life. We had to learn ourselves and, furthermore, we had to teach the despairing men, that it did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us.”
-Viktor Frankl-
Thus, in some way, you project your thoughts and feelings into your environment and the people around you, and this shapes the way you handle things. In other words, everything passes through the filter of your mental attitude. The magnitude of an event is related to the power that you grant it through your interpretation of it.
If the sun shines within you, the rain will clear
If you practice optimism and take everything that happens a little more lightly, you’ll probably attract positive vibrations. To some degree, if you think about it, you’ll realize that you waste a lot of effort complaining about insignificant events. Small, fleeting things happen, and you think you have bad luck and curse about it for hours.
If the sun shines within you, the rain will clear. If you try to put out good vibes, you’ll know how to guard against things that are toxic to you. If you emanate warmth, sympathy, kindness, and friendliness, you will accumulate the same around you, or at least you’ll see the path to follow so that negativity doesn’t affect you.
“If we are basically positive in attitude, expecting and envisioning pleasure, satisfaction, and happiness, we tend to attract and create people, situations, and events that conform to our positive expectations.”
-Shakti Gawain-
Given that you can’t control everything that happens to you, the key is to be intelligent when you interpret it and not make it out to be more important than it is. Shine so that others shine with you, know that a smile can protect you from sadness, and find a way to take those boulders off your shoulders instead of using them to build a wall.
Allow yourself the things you deserve
How can all this be done? Well, by allowing yourself the things you deserve. Don’t be one of those people who masochistically rejects what luck has given them. People do this thinking that maybe this way, misfortune won’t come calling either. But this is an illusory belief associated with an equally illusory concept of justice. The truth is that no matter how much you turn your back on fortune, misfortune will still find you all the same.
No matter how much you reject reward, misfortune still won’t pass over you. So why not celebrate the former if you’re doomed to face the latter?
Reflect on this so that you can seek and recognize what you need in your life. Figuring this out will help you learn that the first step is having a good attitude. Don’t deny yourself what you deserve, don’t limit yourself, and don’t be afraid. This is the best way to take care of yourself and to channel what you receive in a positive way.
“How you look at life is the single best way to take care of yourself. You have a perspective that either beats you up or builds you up. And we can choose our attitude.”
-Spencer Johnson-
