Close Some Doors to Open Others

Close Some Doors to Open Others

Last update: 18 June, 2016

It’s so difficult to close doors to the past and look towards the future! It can be hard to open ourselves up to starting new relationships, or to accept that the time has come to end a relationship. Many people prefer to stay in harmful relationships because they’re afraid of change.

Have you evaluated the risks of staying in a situation that’s making you unhappyIf you get carried away by ideas like, “what if I don’t find anyone else?,” “what if I regret it?,” and “what if it goes terribly?,” you’ll just get stuck at the halfway point.

Keeping doors open to the past will distract you

It’s so hard to break away from everything you know and everything that has influenced you. However, leaving doors open to the past will prevent you from concentrating on what’s important to you now.

If you go through life with one foot in that relationship that’s not working anymore, you won’t notice the guy who’s showing interest in you now, who might be exactly what you’re looking for.

The same thing can happen in any aspect of life. When you concentrate on thinking about and crying over that friend who hurt you, you won’t enjoy the company of the people who are now coming into your life. Closing doors and leaving the past behind gives you time to follow your dreams and focus on new goals.

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Free yourself from the chains of the past and take chances

It’s a big mistake to keep a door open to the past just because you think you might return to the life you long for. The past might be great, and it might make you very emotional. But you shouldn’t remain stagnant, because the future will also bring you experiences that are worth living.

Waiting for someone who was once your best friend to come back to you won’t make it actually happen. Grow, change your look, move to another city, and take any opportunity that presents itself to you. Don’t be afraid, and don’t think you need to be there for someone who deserted you.

You can’t go through life waiting for someone who left with no explanation to come back, or for someone who never even looked at you before to value you now. One day, they might regret it and come looking for you, but what if they never do? Will you live your life only if others value you, or will you value yourself no matter what?

Obsession with the past will make you unhappy

They say that people who live in the past become consumed by depressionIf you think about it, it’s not hard to believe. When you can only think about the things you used to have, you’ll forget about what you have now and what you could have in the future.

That’s why it’s so important to close those doors. You don’t want to be consumed with nostalgia and longing for what used to be. It’s good to remember where you came from so you can keep your feet on the ground, but you should pay more attention to what you have today. 

Enjoy what you have, laugh with the people by your side, and plan for the future. It doesn’t make much sense to do anything else. The worst thing you could do to yourself is look at your life ten years from now and be sad that you didn’t live your life fully.

Be realistic and see the future as an opportunity

Maybe you’re one of those people who thinks that you can’t end a friendship because that friend can help you get the position you want. That might be true, but have you thought about whether that friend is actually prepared to do it? Maybe they don’t even see you as a real friend anymore.

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Also, you could be committing to things that don’t interest you at all. Keeping those doors open might seem like a good idea, but it’ll only flood you with obligations that in time will turn into a huge burden.

Kick the bad habit of keeping doors open

You’ve gotten into the bad habit of keeping doors open to the past. You think it’s always better to keep the possibility open just in case. Just in case that friend needs you, just in case your ex is interested in you again, just in case a job opportunity opens up, etc.

But the truth is that you can’t go through life waiting for circumstances to adapt to your desires. You need to put an end to situations that have no place in your future. This is the key to moving forward.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.