The memories of our life
Memories are the images, words, smells, sensations and emotions you hold in your life backpack. You can take a heavy load, or on the contrary, you can take a light one. The problem is not walking with a large load; the problem is allowing yourself to feel its weight.
You feel a great weight on your shoulders when you bring forth heavy loads of guilt, sadness and failures with your memories. You can feel like you’re carrying a much lighter load by simply choosing to feel good wearing the backpack. The problem is not living with a backpack of memories; the problem is always choosing the heaviest weight.
You must bear in mind that your memory and your mind are wonderful, but sometimes treacherous, as well. Your mind can play tricks and recover distorted memories or recall them as worse than they really were. Be aware that your emotional state influences the information that you recover in your mind. If you’re in a negative state, you recall negative memories.
“If I search among my memories for those whose taste is lasting, if I write the balance sheet of the moments that truly counted, I surely find those that no fortune could have bought me. You cannot buy the friendship of a companion bound to you forever by ordeals endured together.”
-Antoine de Saint-Exupery–
Life is about choosing the good memories so you can handle the bad ones
Knowing that your memory doesn’t always work perfectly, the best you can do is take it into account when you find yourself recalling scenes, and repeating them over and over again even though they do nothing but harm us. Think about your memory and make a more objective analysis about your memories.
It’s also essential to remember that everything doesn’t always go the way you would like it in life, but those mistakes are part of your learning process. You are what you are, and you are where you are due to what you have learned.
All those questions you ask yourself: “What if I hadn’t done that…?” “What if I had said that…?” “What if I hadn’t gone there…?” Those were possibilities, and now they’re paths you didn’t end up taking for some reason. Considering alternative solutions and scenarios, and blaming ourselves for not having taken those decisions damages our present.
Think about the road you have ahead of you and what memories you want to add to the backpack of your life. The journey doesn’t end until our lives do, and our memories are just a part of the ride. Keep moving forward; there are still many, many memories to add to your biography.