Ten Tips to Help You Take Care of Your Emotional Life

If you're feeling stressed, here are ten tips to help you manage your emotions.
Ten Tips to Help You Take Care of Your Emotional Life
Sara Clemente

Reviewed and approved by psychologist and journalist Sara Clemente.

Written by Sara Clemente

Last update: 21 December, 2022

You can experience emotional stress in multiple ways. For example, sadness, anxiety, addictions, obsessions, repetitive behaviors, boredom, and emotional lability. Sometimes, emotional discomfort can disappear in a matter of days, but, if it’s persistent, you should go to a specialist who’ll be able to help you. In this article, we’ll give some tips to help you escape from these kinds of difficult moments and start taking care of your emotional life.

Taking care of your emotional life means taking responsibility for your emotions, learning to manage them, and discovering a much healthier way of experiencing them

1. Be yourself

It’s important to always be yourself. This means accepting, loving, and valuing yourself. It means knowing what you like and what you don’t, how you react to different situations, which behaviors make you uncomfortable, and which ones make you feel happy. In order to do this, you must accept your own opinions, defend your values, and say what you want to say. There are a thousand ways of being yourself just by being honest with yourself. You don’t have to behave differently in order to please others. After all, you can’t ever please everyone!

2. Reinvent your emotional discomfort

In order to reduce your inner discomfort, try to imagine yourself in another way. Visualize yourself as a more carefree person with less of an emotional charge. You’ll become calmer, more productive, less critical, less selfish, and less aggressive.

3. Learn to love and be loved

As a human being, you require some moments of solitude and time for yourself. In fact, to feel like an individual. It’s part of life. Furthermore, if you love and let yourself be loved, you’ll feel better and happier. You’ll also experience life more fully. That’s what happens when you take care of your emotional life.

“You learn to speak by speaking, to study by studying, to run by running, to work by working. In just the same way you learn to love by loving.”

-Francis de Sales-

Couple looking into each other's eyes with love

4. Know how to listen

In addition to speaking, you should practice the ability to listen and to recognize how you project yourself onto others. Most of the time, change starts from knowledge, both what you see in the mirror, and what others see when you stand in front of them.

5. Control your mind

You must do a good internalization job, in order to identify any thoughts that are of no use to you and discard them. Or, failing that, to replace them with more useful thoughts.

6. Forget the past

You can’t control your future, nor can you prevent your past from coming back. In fact, trying to control something in the past or future can lead to anxiety, nightmares, sudden sadness, or waves of anger or defeat. Therefore, you must try to manage your memories in such a way that they don’t cause you uncontrolled emotional discomfort that you then project into your present and/or the future.

7. Reduce your anxiety

Anxiety has the ability to jeopardize your emotional balance, your state of mind, and the successful performance of your daily activities. There are different techniques you can use to reduce your anxiety. For example, relaxation techniques.

“Anxiety’s like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but it doesn’t get you very far.” 

-Judi Piccoult-

8. Control your mood

You can do this by breathing, practicing mindfulness, or meditation… Remember that no one has the power to make you feel bad if you don’t allow them to. You’re in charge of your own moods.

Woman meditating to balance her emotional life

9. Modify your actions

You might find yourself feeling angry, impulsive, distracted, undisciplined, and afraid. Examining the actions that generate these negative states in you is the first step to making them disappear.

10. Learn acceptance

While many circumstances are completely out of your control, there are others you can manage. For example, you can change your job or career, reduce your calorie intake, or choose to either speak or remain silent. However, you can’t make decisions for others, change your friends’ intentions, or control the behavior of others.

If you make these improvements, you’ll feel better emotionally. That’s because emotional improvement usually demands that you take action in the real world.

Now that you know how to take care of your emotional life, what will you do to improve it?


This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.