What Must Be Will Be At The Right Place and Time

Reviewed and approved by the psychologist Raquel Aldana.

Written by Raquel Aldana

Last update: 14 December, 2021

What must be will be at the right place and time because the destination is uncertain and sometimes the winds simply do not blow in our favor nor do our sails get hoisted despite our efforts.

They say the best things are not planned, they just happen and it is better not to press time. Because really if anything should happen, it will happen anyway. And if it shouldn’t then it won’t. It’s that simple.

So from time to time it is good not plan or expect anything, stop demanding reasons why we should continue down a certain path and get out of the world of expectations and schedules.

Accepting that things can be simpler opens up a wide range of possibilities to enjoy life from a much more relaxed and friendly perspective for our well-being.

Everything passes, everything comes, everything changes

We probably all agree that we are a product of our circumstances and our desires. However, sometimes these are incompatible or are at least difficult for us to digest the consequences they entail. This raises concerns that make us feel anxious and, as they say, embitter our existence.

It’s helpful to keep in mind a famous Arab proverb: If you have solution, why worry? And if you do not, why do you care?

The truth is that yes, it seems obvious that we should not worry about what we cannot solve, but letting go and staying calm at times can be virtually impossible.

So perhaps what we should learn is that there are certain things that are beyond our control and we often must simply let life flow and accept our circumstances.

We are not the shell, we are the breath

We are what we digest, the stones on which stumble, scratches that do not heal and the tragic end of our life. We are not all smiles, joys or truths, we are also lies (the ones we are told and those which we tell ourselves), we are the criticisms and the tears we have not cried.

So to encompass everything we are made up of is more than complicated. But this does not mean we have to be wary of happiness or life’s coincidences.

This is not about believing or not believing in fate, but rather about letting circumstances surprise us and thus open the windows of emotional relaxation to help us rekindle our feelings.

Occasionally it is necessary to run away from ourselves and our expectations. Meaning, we must wash our mind in order to gain perspective, count to ten and fill our lungs with oxygen.

This will help us keep us from missing opportunities and not regret what we’ve los. When it need to end with a period, it does, but we respect the elipsis, commas and new paragraphs.

They say what does not kill you makes you stronger and it is precisely this impulse that helps you walk kilometers and kilometers of stone paths barefoot. The truth is that the key is to wring out the mistakes and enjoy the winds of change.

Remember that those parts of you that you do not connect with usually lose the strength they need to be activated. So do not spend life watching as your watch batteries are consumed; do not move backwards.

Go for continuity, learn to relax, to look very closely at those damaging thoughts and to contemplate life with patience. Do not try to plan every millimeter of your journey, sometimes you just need adjust the focus on your camera and be inspired by chance.

Recommended literature:

• Csikszentmihalyi, M. (1997). Flow (flow): A Psychology of Happiness. Barcelona: Kairos. ISBN: 9788472453722
• Luciano, C. and Valdivia, S. (2006). Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Fundamentals, Characteristics and Evidence. Papers Psychologist, 27 (2), 79-91.