Happy Homes, Healthy People

· February 3, 2016

Tending the emotional climate of our home is the key to developing as people.  A home is a place where we can be ourselves. But there’s also a great risk at hand. Here “everything goes.” That is to say, trust and habits can let us get carried away and not care for certain principles like respect and solidarity.

It’s important that we practice warmth, respect, self-control and kindness within our home. At the end of the day, it’s all about caring for our emotions and wellbeing. Emotional intelligence is one of the best guarantees of a happy life, and it is rooted in our home.

Emotional education is even more important when there are children in our home. They’re the ones who suffer the most intensely from the conflicts we’re already accustomed to. That’s why, it’s important that we talk about our emotions and feelings before they explode and become the enemies of our family’s health.

“My home.
It’s a refuge to brace external storms.
It’s my resting place during war.
My home.
It’s the color I always paint with.
wherever I may be.
My home.
It’s my break so I can then continue on,
It’s the best place I want to share.
My home.
It’s my today, where I also give,
I make myself felt, it’s where I show who I am.”

-Mery Bracho-

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The neighbor test

Imagine that one day you all find yourselves overwhelmed at home. You all start fighting each other out of control. Reproaches, screams, fightsTension has invaded your home, and it’s on the brink of collapsing.

Suddenly, someone knocks on the door. It’s the neighbor. Suddenly, everything is calm. We collect our things and our bad moods. We talk to the neighbor with moderation and kindness, and offer him our full hospitality.

When the neighbor leaves, two things could happen: we all start fighting again or we each resume our normal activities. Why do we need a neighbor to compel us to control ourselves? Why aren’t we able to put on the brakes and act with emotional intelligence?

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3 keys to improve the emotional climate of your home

Dr. Maiysha shows us, in the video linked at the end of this article, the key to improving the emotional climate of our home. And shows us how not to get out of tune so easily…

1. Ask questions and challenge yourself

Are you able to behave a whole day with your family as if the neighbor could hear you? Are you going to say something to your family that the neighbor shouldn’t hear?

As we’ve said, it’s likely that this proves to be difficult. Therefore, experts recommend implementing this for at least one day a week to help restore your emotional balance.

2. Watch your expressions and your displays of affection

We all need to occasionally be spoken to with affection and permissiveness. Stress, routine, and daily life often make us talk to our loved ones with harshness. This just erodes the trust forged and the warmth of home.

3. Prioritize the group’s and individual wellbeing

Usually, we prioritize our interests without realizing the damage emotional selfishness can cause. It’s important to share moments and help each other every day. The simple fact of being interested in how the other is doing in their daily lives is comforting. This allows the emotional climate we live in to not harm us.

A home is the most important structure of our lives. Let’s take care of it.