Love: The Magic of Life

Love is a fire which shapes intense stories. In this article, I'm going to tell you mine.

Falling in love takes your breath away. It’s even better when it’s reciprocated, and sustaining a relationship over time is magic. In fact, healthy love in a relationship is an inexhaustible source of inspiration and admiration for both partners. When you’re in a relationship, your skin and mind are electrified and filled with a vibrant energy that energizes each word, thought, and emotion.

Real love isn’t temporary. It’s a process that never ends. It creates stories, memories, feelings, and perceptions that are intertwined, and co-created. These give rise to a vibrant, magical, wild, and intimate kind of love.

First contact

It all started with a dating app. I’d just finished a phase of my life that wasn’t turning out the way I’d planned. So, I decided to shelve it and start a new journey, both in work and academic terms. But, what about personally?

I’ve always liked the metaphor of the traffic light. When I felt comfortable without a partner, I’d say that my traffic light was red. And, I stayed that color for a long time. However, I wanted a change and for my light to change to green.

But, this was a mistake. A big mistake. After all, we can’t force ourselves to mentally connect with others and start relationships. In reality, we lack this capacity and it’s a good thing we do. Because, if we were completely in tune with everyone else, we’d stop being human.

I chose to use a dating app. And, I had many dates. In fact, Fridays became Meet Fridays. I met many people through the app and some of them have remained friends. Meeting new people is great. It opens up new horizons. And it was through the dating app that I met my partner. However, when we first connected online he didn’t want to even meet.

“I know you” engraved on the retina

When he refused to meet me, I told him I simply wanted to meet new people. I wasn’t necessarily expecting to find love. Then, he said yes. I felt like I was walking on eggshells. I had to be so careful not to push him too hard or overwhelm him. But, I was really curious to find out more about him. He seemed so interesting.

I met him many times. We used to spend Sundays having a few drinks and talking about how our respective weeks had been. At the same time, I was also meeting up with more people. Some even became more than friends. But, while they came and went, he continued to be a constant in my life. We spent increasingly more time talking on WhatsApp every day.

I felt really comfortable, cared for, and safe at our Sunday meetings. He was also starting to hint that he’d like to see me more.  Then, one day, he invited me to go for a morning hike with him through the forest just outside town.

But, I couldn’t stand the certainty anymore of being madly in love with him without him knowing. So I told him “I really like you”. He replied, “I know. I feel the same”. I was speechless. It was the last answer I expected. But, it was his immediate response. And this message intimately connected us, ‘mind to mind’, so to speak.

I see you: my life partner

Do you remember the famous phrase, “I see you” from the movie AVATAR? It describes the fact of knowing the other deeply, of connecting at extraordinarily beautiful levels, transmitting intimate messages with the eyes, connecting, vibrating in unison, and flowing. This is how I feel whenever I see him.

Now, I see him every day. Ever since he asked me out. Yes, he finally asked me! Seeing each other every day allows us to get to know each other. Together, we’ve experienced some difficult moments, but also beautiful ones.

I love it when we curl up to watch a series together or even take a nap. But, also when he tells me his dreams or fears because it means he trusts me. We’re creating a life together. It’s magic.