If You Feel Alone by Yourself, Then You’re in Bad Company

August 28, 2018

Why do we have this tendency to run away from solitude? Why do so many of us prefer to be around people all the time? There are people who avoid being alone at all costs. They make thousands of plans so that they can always be doing something. They’re afraid of feeling lonely. They don’t want to be stuck in silence with themselves and they feel a massive need to be with other people so that they don’t come face to face with that.

But there are a lot of lessons you can learn from solitude. It can teach you how to overcome things and actually help you get there. In fact, learning to be alone can take you farther than any amount of company. You just have to know where to look.

The bitterest side of solitude is feeling like you’re not loved, protected, or appreciated. Not choosing to be alone isn’t exactly the most pleasant thing you can go through, but it can also help you grow a lot.

If you feel alone, you shouldn’t always go looking for other people. Instead, finding a way to get something positive out of these kinds of situations can really help you.

The only voice you hear when you’re alone is your internal dialogue

Solitude is a masterful builder of spirit, so use it as a personal growth tool. When you’re alone, the only voice you hear is your own. It’s the internal dialogue that often makes you uncomfortable, that you’ve probably tried to drown out with noise and other people for as long as you can remember. It’s not really being alone that scares you, it’s what you have to say to yourself.

If you feel alone, you’re just in bad company. Never forget that solitude is like the reign of awareness.

Woman sitting on balcony confronting her solitude.

Being alone is to your spirit what diet is to your body. Even if it’s as silent as light, it’s also one of the most powerful forces inside of you. Being alone is natural for us as human beings and it’s an essential part of who we are. We all come into this world alone, and we all leave it that way.

You don’t find anything in solitude beside what you have inside you. That’s why alone moments are the best moments to get to know yourself. Knowing how to listen to yourself is the best cure for the fear of not being with people.

If you feel alone, something isn’t working properly. You need to start to see solitude as a friend giving you the company you want.

The first thing you have to do to start a healthy internal dialogue is learn to understand and value yourself. Listening, accepting, and recognizing what you have to tell yourself opens up the door to a warm place that will make you feel protected.

Loneliness adds beauty to life. It puts a special burn on sunsets and makes night air smell better.”

-Henry Rollins-

If you feel alone, remember that solitude is the only thing that will never leave you

Solitude is the only thing that will never leave you. There’s some irony to that sentence, but there’s an uncomfortable truth in it too. Every single one of us has felt abandoned at some point in our lives. We’ve been forced to embrace a deep, painful kind of independence. When you have nowhere else to turn, it will always be there to take you in.

Solitude is the best company you’ll ever find. If you choose it of your own free will, you can use it to manage and organize everything you think and feel.

Sad person feeling alone looking out at nature.

We all think that being an adult means being independent and not needing anyone. But that search for independence can end up hurting you a lot. That’s why everyone, at some point in their lives, feels like they’re dying of loneliness.

But it’s important to remember that whenever you feel alone, unprotected, and abandoned, you need to be with yourself. This is when you need to deeply embrace yourself until you feel like you’re right there, with yourself. This is one of the biggest, most beautiful ironies in life.

“It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.”

-Ralph Waldo Emerson-