You Can't Be Anyone but Yourself

You Can't Be Anyone but Yourself

Last update: 13 February, 2017

You lost yourself in comparisons, in absurd embarrassment, wanting to be someone you weren’t, all because you admired others and criticized yourself. Maybe you were afraid of being unique, standing out. You  wanted to be like the rest, to not be out of place. You wanted what other people had, to become everything they became.

Don’t compete with anyone. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. You don’t have to go where other people have gone, just overcome your own limitations. Be the best version of yourself!

From a young age, we’re taught to be better than everyone else, to discover how unique we are. Because we’re not all the same, and everybody has something special about them. Have you found it? If not, today you’ll discover how to be yourself, and how to maximize what makes you special.

Don’t compare, just be yourself

Comparing yourself with others is the worst thing you can do. It just takes your focus away from yourself, and you begin focusing all your attention on the people you’re comparing yourself to. Suddenly, they start to be the model that you want to follow, the person you want to become. But don’t you know that the only model you should follow is you?

When you compare yourself with these people, it certainly doesn’t feel good. That’s because you’re a long way from becoming them. Maybe you’re dazzled by their security, by how happy they always seem, how quickly they make friends. When you don’t achieve what they achieve, you feel bad and your self-esteem falls.

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It’s normal to be dazzled by some people’s strong personalities. They emanate security and convey their uniqueness. Stop looking at them and start looking at you. Do you feel good with the way you are? What would you like to change?

I want to be like people who are very different from me, and I don’t realize that the only person I should be like is myself.

Imagine that you’re embarrassed to speak in public and you want to be like your friend who doesn’t seem to be afraid of getting in front of a large audience, speaking, making mistakes, and receiving criticism… The first thing to do is analyze yourself. What are you afraid of? Is the thing you fear real? Once you’ve responded to these questions, it’s time to take action. If you don’t like this about yourself, face the problem.

As you’ve probably realized, all of this is focused on you, not anyone else. Because you can compare yourself with that person who’s really good at math, but if you’re more into writing, then it’s completely useless. Everyone has different abilities; we’re not all the same! We’re unique and different.

Harness your strengths

Stop thinking about and fixating on others for a moment. Comparisons will make you feel bad, so it’s time for you to discover the good things about yourself. Even if you think there aren’t any, you just have to look. Look inside and evaluate everything you’ve done. There must be many things that you enjoy, that make you unique.

Imagine again that you are that person who’s embarrassed to speak in public. Instead of focusing on everyone who’s different from you, focus on what you’re good at. Maybe the people you admire don’t know how to draw, but they have complimented you more than once on your spectacular drawings.

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There’s always something you stand out for, and even if you haven’t discovered it yet, now is the time. Try new activities that are related to the way you are. You can’t try to do something that doesn’t come naturally to you. That is, you can’t try to be something you’re not. Imagine that you’re not a logical person, but rather you’re a dreamer. You can’t change that!

It’s much more important to get to know yourself than to get to know others. The key is in accepting yourself, getting to know yourself, and identifying something that allows you to be yourself to the fullest extent. Not everyone is good at the same things or stands out for the same reasons. This is where your authenticity lies.

Do you still want to be like others, or do you want to be yourself? The only person you should compare yourself with is you, and the only person you should compete with is you. Because you are the one who matters, the person you must surpass every day, who should seek to be better than yesterday.

I want to be myself. What about you?

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This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.