Things Don't Always Go According to Plan...And That's a Good Thing

Things Don't Always Go According to Plan...And That's a Good Thing
Sergio De Dios González

Written and verified by the psychologist Sergio De Dios González.

Last update: 21 February, 2022

Many of us live in a routine where we are constantly planning our lives and thinking about our future. Do you believe that you are overwhelmed by things not going the way you had hoped? Often, if we’re used to trying to plan and control, when something doesn’t go our way we feel like giving up.

“The future has many names: For the weak, it means the unattainable. For the fearful, it means the unknown. For the courageous, it means opportunity.”

– Victor Hugo –

If we live thinking about the future and expect that everything that happens to us has to be “perfect,” it stops us from having time to stop and reflect and understand the possible lessons that each situation or experience in our daily lives can offer us.

When things do not go the way you want…

For all of these reasons, and in order to free your heart and mind, it is good for things not to go how you hope and desire from time to time.

Maybe everything that you have already thought out or sketched out with extreme precision turned out to be very different. Maybe that moment will allow you to give the best of yourself, something outside the usual.

“We have trained them to think of the Future as a promised land which favored heroes attain-not as something which everyone reaches at the rate of sixty minutes an hour, whatever he does, whoever he is.”

– Clive Staples Lewis –

Woman Observing Butterfly

Concentrating on making your life into something perfect does not allow you to bring out the best version of yourself. Maybe you forgot a while back that the present that you are living, the here and now, is much more important and vital than the future that you are building each and every day.

It can also happen that the past turns into your best friend, and you come up with countless explanations for why you did those things and how you carried them out. In moments like this, I like to tell myself that everything happens for a reason.

If you do different things, you will discover different things

Life shows us a precious life lesson full of wisdom every minute, every second, and every breath. But if you do not dare to break away from your routine, or better said, from your comfort zone, you will never let yourself discover.

Life challenges us in a sincere way by simply putting us in different situations, as if it were just a prism of precious crystals, to test us out.

Shoelace Heart

Your only mission is to observe every face, your own face, full of colors and bright shimmers. Each one with its immense talent and potential to face any situation, no matter how challenging.

Keeping this in mind, I invite you not to get too overwhelmed when something does not go the way you had thought it would. Maybe it is a stroke of luck that it went this way, to show you that you still have something to learn first.

You can apply this to any facet of your life and not just when you are thinking about the future and planning it. Remember that life is about learning from each and every one of its details.

Getting stressed out at times when your actions and experiences do not turn out the way you had wanted just stops you from noticing that something better is coming.

Being present in the here and now will make it easier for you to choose the face of the prism that you prefer, the one that best adapts to the moment and makes you be what you truly are, the best version of yourself.

The present is the necessary product of all the past, the necessary cause of all the future.”

– Robert Green Ingersoll –

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.