The Day I Started to Love Myself

· June 27, 2018

The day I started to love myself, I suddenly started to see all the things I lost when I didn’t. Things I had kept inside me and never knew were there. I realized how valuable it was — I had to tell myself that. The day I began to love myself, I could see myself in the mirror and like what it reflected. And from there, I became aware of how important I am to myself.

The day I began to love myself, I realized that I didn’t need anyone, and I banished my fear of abandonment and rejection. Because I don’t need others; I just want them. Since then, I appreciate all the people around me much more.

Now I have it clear that they do not fill any hole inside me, because if I lack something it cannot be filled from the outside, only the inside. Relationships do not fill holes, they simply give affection and create moments.

The pace of my life changed the day I began to love myself. I went from tiptoeing quickly around life to being present with both feet on the ground. Now I enjoy the moment and instead of moving on, I enjoy waiting, making it intense and much more fun.

Just then, my vision of love also changed. Now I know that to love is also to accept mistakes and learn from them. That to love oneself implies in some way realizing that we are not perfect, and living with that fact. In fact, I realized that self-love requires a lot of long-term work.

The day I began to love myself, I started to support myself. Actually, that same day I understood that my decisions got me where I am today and I like it. There are pros and cons, but I like where I am and — of course — who I am.


I started to love myself, and suddenly I could love. I found freedom and peace within myself.

 

The day I started to love myself.

Looking outside sometimes is not the solution

Loving myself is the best decision I’ve ever made. Because now I know that only when my interior rebuilding is finished will I be able to go out and look for building materials outside. I need everything good inside, no cracked ceilings. My thoughts and emotions, all my behaviors, are what make me who I am. That’s why, when something goes wrong, I have to look first inside before I look outside.

Maybe looking for something outside and not finding it is a sign that I’m looking in the wrong place. Sometimes giving up also works. Starting to love myself has taught me this. It also taught me that I have a long way to go. But that’s ok because I have motivation: to be the best version of myself. I will practice self-love for the rest of my life.

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection”.

-Buddha-

A heart in the sun.

Loving myself is not being selfish

Loving myself is not selfish or narcissistic. It’s fundamental and pushes me to see who I really am and what makes me happy. Because if I love myself, I don’t need to be better than anyone or to beat them. Rather, I can just improve and move towards my goals.

I enjoyed the day I started to love myself, and ever since then, I live with enthusiasm. I love myself and I say it loud and proud. While I enjoy being surrounded and being loved, it’s not because I feel like I need it; I just enjoy it.

The day I started to love myself was magical. I only hope that you also begin to feel how magnificent you are. Don’t wait to discover everything you have inside that you’re hiding out of fear. Wait and see how you enjoy your own company. I started to love myself, will you?