How Real Love Feels
If you don’t call me or can’t be with me, I’ll think that you’re busy. If you don’t tell me you love me, I’ll think that you’re afraid to commit. If you don’t kiss me, I’ll think you’re sad. And if you don’t sleep with me, I’ll think you’re tired. And I’ll think all of this without realizing that if I don’t feel your love, it’s because it doesn’t exist.
When you can’t feel love then that love doesn’t exist and is no good for you. It’s very complicated and hard to be realistic about this. But it’s totally necessary if we wish to have somebody by our side that will make us happy.
Sometimes we long for someone with all of our heart. We can’t hold back the desire to kiss that someone, to have them and make them ours. But there’s something missing. In other occasions, we feel a great caring and friendship for someone, but we don’t long for them. We don’t feel that strong sexual impulse of desire. And other times, we feel very close to another person, so much so that we know how they feel, but there’s no desire, though there might be friendship.
Eros is sexual desire. It’s the manifestation of possession. In this phase, the most important thing is us. It’s a completely selfish phase that is expressed through phrases like: “You’re mine.” “I want you all to myself.” But Eros, by itself is not enough. It is always missing something. Though if it is handled correctly, it can lead us to the next element of love.
