Keeping the Spark Alive in Your Relationship

· December 28, 2015

You may agree with me that love is one of the most wonderful things we can feel during our life. Feeling loved and cared for by another person fills each day with joy and keeps you wanting to become a better person.

When you find the person you want to spend your life with, and want to love for the rest of your life you receive the best possible prize: loving another human-being, wholly and unconditionally.

Loving leads you to feeling whole, complete and without internal shortcomings. Everything is complete, even yourself. But it’s not easy to maintain love of this kind, and it’s crucial to take care of your relationship. Mutual dedication and care will keep your emotions strong throughout the passing of time, and will keep the initial spark alive.

In short: you have to push yourself to show your loved one all the love you’re feeling for them through your actions. Love implies, and needs, continuous work and effort.

Surely at some point in your life, you’ve forgotten this. We take love for granted instead of giving it the continuous attention that it deserves. That’s how couples that have been together for so long prevail; they know how to keep their love strong and continue to cherish each other every day.   

couple hugging

Life isn’t a science fiction movie; life is your movie. You pick the genre, and making it a reality lies in your hands and heart. You just need the will-power from both partners, and their absolute dedication to their love.


These are the 5 ingredients to keeping the love alive in your relationship:

Not giving in to routine

We’re used to accepting the idea that, after the first few months of the relationship where everything is perfect and we see no flaws in our partner, things start to change. Monotony begin to rear its ugly head. The same plans, conversations, schedules, sexual habits and activities won’t help you keep the flame of your love burning very long.

Making communication a priority

Communication is vital to the survival of any relationship. So that both you and your partner know what you expect and need in the relationship, or simply, at what point you’re both at, it’s essential to have positive and sincere communication.

Maybe you’re starting to feel uncomfortable and your partner hasn’t even noticed. I suggest and urge you to communicate that with affection and love.

Caressing each other and showing the love you feel for one another is also important. Don’t let lack of time distract you from keeping your relationship alive with gestures full of affection and tenderness.

couple walking on beach

Feeling the person you love close to your heart, feeling their touch, lets you develop an even stronger existing link, and connect you in the purest form.

Focusing on the details

Showing affection and taking the time and energy to do so in small ways with the person we love is good and useful, but it’s useless unless it’s done with unconditional love.

Give your partner constant love, and do special things for him and her without having a particular reason or expecting anything in return. Start acting differently, and apply an extra dose of attention to keep them feeling special, different, and much valued.

Making each other laugh

Laughter is a mirror and this happens just as much in relationships. Smiling will help you to constantly keep a great attitude, make us feel whole, and happy.

Keep your optimism about life and the relationship. As you know, laughing has an infinite amount of beneficial health properties, at an emotional level, as well as physical. Don’t stop doing it and even less so with the person you love.

The best thing to hold onto in life is each other. 

— Audrey Hepburn