How to Keep Going When Nothing Makes You Happy

· April 28, 2016

Sometimes, you just can’t find your path, and it’s hard for something to make you happy. Maybe your partner doesn’t make you happy, you don’t like your job, you want to change your way of looking at and living life, but you feel blocked somehow.

The vortex of your day to day keeps you from stopping and asking yourself what you’re really doing what you want to do. It keeps you from reflecting on the reason why nothing makes you happy. All of your daily activities distract you from what is also important: yourself.

“Life is full of solitude, misery, suffering, sadness and, yet, it comes to an end much too quickly.”
-Woddy Allen-

5 tips to keep going

A bit of healthy selfishness is necessary every once in a while in order to recover, to get to know who we are and to have the certainty that our life is heading in the direction of happiness. We have to be sure that the path we are on is one we’ve chosen ourselves, that it wasn’t picked out by other people.

There are many things you can do in order to keep moving forward when nothing makes you happy, but it’s essential that you take the time to reflect deeply on your emotions, feelings and desires.

 


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1. Think about what you desire

What do you want? What excites you and makes you vibrate within? Don’t let yourself be influenced by what others think you desire. It’s about what you want, what makes you happy. We all have dreams and wishes that we’re afraid to make a reality. But life isn’t long, and it’s time to walk towards what we truly long for.

2. Take action

It’s not enough to think, it’s also time to start doing everything that can move you towards your dream. If you always wanted to be an actress, start signing up for a theater class, for example. Go to events that are related to theater or film. Interact with people who have the same interests as you, and start taking part in activities that make you happy.

“My attitude can change in a minute, and that minute can change my whole day.” 
-Spencer Johnson-

3. Slow down the rhythm of your life

It’s not necessary to try to do everything at once. Pause for a second and think about what’s urgent and what can wait a bit. Find some time to dedicate to yourself, to enjoy what you like, be it taking a stroll in the moonlight, enjoying a meal with your friends or family, or having dinner with your partner. It’s always possible to find at least a few moments to dedicate to ourselves.

4. Tune in to your feelings

Our feelings are important. How does your life currently make you feel? What don’t you like about it? If it makes you feel sad, it’s time to start making some changes. Start with yourself, change the way you dress, the way you style our hair, the way you walk, the way you interact with people. Keep in mind that you can’t make things worse, you’ll simply experiment and have fun.

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If you need to cry, do it. It doesn’t matter if someone sees you, let the sadness out. Don’t hold it in. Make sure that with every single drop, whatever is making you unhappy or restless dissolves. Crying is a necessary evil. You need it to be able to substitute every tear for a lovely smile.

5. Enjoy people

Isolating ourselves and not interacting with other people distances us and makes us fall even deeper into our sadness. We need hugs, kisses, caresses, words of encouragement and comfort.

We need to be with other people and enjoy their happiness and contagious smiles. Maybe you don’t feel like seeing anyone, but many times when we feel like this, that’s when we go out and enjoy ourselves the most, because our expectations are low.

What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

That’s a fundamental question that you should ask yourself every day in order to leave behind everything that makes you scared, and simply go for it. There are many ways of doing things, and it’s important to do them in the way we feel the most comfortable. But many times we have to take a risk and battle our fears. 

Getting out of your comfort zone, doing something risky, regardless of whether we’re successful of not, can provide us with the joy of living and knowing that it’s worthwhile to enjoy our existence.

“Everything seems impossible, until we do it.” 
-Nelson Mandela-