The Importance of Slimming Big Egos to Feed the Soul
In the territory of big egos, only pride grows. It understands the world from within, and sows unhappiness in any environment it inhabits. We all know someone molded in this pattern. They stifle calm and ought to diet their egos so their souls also have some nourishment.
If we take a brief look at the current panorama of socio-politics that surrounds us, we will realize that, indeed, the realm of the ego is booming. Many countries and leaders are beginning to practice self-protection and defense, where the foreigner is left aside in order to protect one’s own identity.
The ego is an artificial mask create by the family, society and culture. It is a mask on top of another mask.
Many forget, perhaps, that big egos and voices of pride are obsessed with marking distances, bringing inequality, hatred, discrimination and unhappiness. However, we are not only witnessing this dynamic at the political level. According to an article published in the journal “Psychology Today,” the workplace increasingly targets managers or bosses who are led by ego in a need to exercise power and control, rather than applying emotional intelligence to their organizations.
Employees with managers who fit this profile define them as “small children with too much power.” Selfish actions in any realm, whether at the family, business or social level, do not create any benefit. Human potential is wasted because it is subordinated to fear, to the empire of contempt and to that lack of ethics, empathy and closeness where little to nothing good can grow.
We propose reflecting on it.
Strong egos and big egos
We’ll begin by clarifying something essential. The word “ego”comes from Latin and simply means “I.” For Eastern philosophy, ego refers to self-consciousness and self-recognition, which must be distinguished from unhealthy behaviors such as self-worship or selfishness.
On the other hand, Freud also that level of our psychic apparatus as the middle part where the person is torn between the instinctive impulse and the pressure of social norms. The ultimate goal would be to develop a healthy ego that allows us to harmonize in the day-to-day of our relationships and society itself.
With all of this, we can no doubt deduce that there are two types of ego. On the one hand, it is our need to develop a very strong sense of self, where our self-esteem is consolidated and there is full awareness of oneself with our values, nobility and the identity that defines us while also being sensitive and close to the other identities that surround us.
On the other hand and on the opposite pole, are the big egos.
Let’s look at their characteristics in detail.
Big egos and their personal universes
Big egos are unmeasured and unrealistic concept of self that has not been enriched on the inside. One’s gaps, personal limitations and lack of self-esteem lead them to seek external recognition.
- Big egos aim to “gather” other people’s energies to exert control. For this purpose, they do not hesitate to humiliate or despise.
- The big ego loves to be the center of attention and identify with everything that differentiates him from the rest: a title, an achievement, a brand, a flag …
- Big egos dress with the armor of goodness to be held in high regard and to thus attract followers.
- In turn, there are various types of “big egos:” the know-it-all, the sophisticated one, the prestigious one, the insatiable one, and the one always looking for new emotions and experiences to take pride in.
7 Steps to Slimming a Big Ego
Throughout history, both psychological and philosophical studies have been conducted in depth on the subject of the ego and its relation to evil. It is a complex issue where there are no clear results, because there are undoubtedly biological, social and educational components. Be that as it may, what is clear is that big egos are the reflection of anorexic minds that have not been initiated into the world of emotional intelligence.
“If your ego does not leave you alone, send it to buy humility.”
It is therefore necessary that we all sow this seed in the new generations to help them build a healthy and empathetic ego. We must initiate them into the art of nourishing the soul and not the ego. Here are some basic keys to think about.
Strategies to overcome your ego
The key to overcoming your ego is to be aware of your daily behaviors and attitudes. You’ll ask … what attitudes? Let’s take a look.
- Free yourself from the need to be superior to others.
- Do not just stick to your achievements and successes, but recognize those of others.
- Do not feel eternally offended by what others say, do or think. They have a right to not be who you think they should be.
- Free yourself from the need to have more everyday. Appreciate what you already have.
- Free yourself from the need to win. Sometimes you also learn from losing.
- Do not obsess about always being right.
- Your goal in life is not to be successful or famous. Your goal, simply, is to be happy.
To conclude, we need to understand the ego’s daily goal is only to raise walls and create distance. We need to start nourishing the soul and practicing humility where we recognize other people as part of ourselves. Let’s nurture a noble heart to create a more respectful and close world.