Don't Underestimate Me, I Might Surprise You

Don't Underestimate Me, I Might Surprise You

Last update: 13 October, 2016

According to a tremendously popular saying, you never stop getting to know people, and when you think you know them, they surprise you. This is one of the most beautiful feelings you can have towards someone, unless of course it’s because you underestimated them. So don’t underestimate people, because you might be wrong.

Every relationship must be renewed by learning new things about the other person that you didn’t know before, especially if you can surprise each other. However, these discoveries have nuances that you have to be careful with, especially in situations where you just met the person.

“I’ve always had a passion for details, for the small, almost invisible events around us. Observing people can teach you a lot.”

-Marco Levy-

Having said that, everybody has a first impression of someone when they first meet. To a certain degree, this is completely human, and it doesn’t have to be harmful; rather, it’s involuntary. But if your first impression of someone is negative, be careful, because we tend to confirm our first impressions rather than prove them wrong.

Don’t underestimate me, try to really get to know me

It’s true that there are some people who talk more than they think, and say more than they know. You might even say that we’ve all done that before. However, this isn’t the norm. Most of us say less than we know, think more than we speak, and notice more than we think.

big face looking at little girl

This is a defense mechanism against the fear of being completely emotionally vulnerable with someone. And sometimes we simply like for others to get to know us gradually, so that things don’t go too fast.

“In my walks, every man I meet is my superior in some way, and in that I learn from him.”

-Ralph Waldo Emerson-

For these reasons, if you don’t pay attention, you might lose out on knowing great people. And if you prejudge them, you might be mistaken, which you’ll regret later on. Leave room for them to teach you things, don’t underestimate them, and don’t label them. From now on, cultivate healthy relationships so that you can always learn something from them.

If you underestimate me, it’s your problem

It’s not good for your own sense of inner peace to underestimate yourself, but it also doesn’t feel good when someone values you less than you’re worth. Nobody should have the audacity to try to make you feel small.

“People with small souls always try to make other people smaller.”

-Carlos Ruíz Zafón-

If this has ever happened to you and you knew how to react, you should feel good about having that courage. And if you didn’t know how to react, you can remember for the next time that people who underestimate you actually have a problem with themselves.

woman sinking with ships

People who behave that way probably have a low self-esteem and don’t know it. It’s a response to their own inner turmoil, and they make other people pay for it.

The smaller you think I am, the bigger I can be

Underestimating someone means expecting less from them, and this is when they surprise you. You can’t really know the true limits and potentials of other people, and people who think that they can are mistaken. In fact, when people bet on you the least is when you best achieve your goals.

I’m tired of hearing people say they can easily “see through” people. They might as well brag that they don’t give people enough chances to be how they first imagined them to be.

It’s common to think this way and label someone as unfriendly, and then act that way towards them, thus increasing the possibility of receiving the same treatment in return and confirming what you thought from the beginning.

map of stars

There are so many wonderful people who do things you never would have imagined, and there are others who give you just what you need in exactly the right moment. People can surprise you with a little detail that shows that they know you better than you thought. These are the people who grow slowly but surely, because they believe in themselves, even when there are people around them who tell them they can’t do it.

So don’t let people underestimate you, don’t underestimate them, and don’t forget that anyone can surprise you, because unseen and unexpected things are a part of being human, and therefore, a part of life.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.