7 Lessons to Learn Before Hitting Your Thirties

7 Lessons to Learn Before Hitting Your Thirties
Sergio De Dios González

Reviewed and approved by the psychologist Sergio De Dios González.

Written by Okairy Zuñiga

Last update: 21 December, 2022

Your twenties are a time full of change, but your thirties represent the true beginning of adulthood.

These are the habits you should be applying by the time you turn thirty. They’re guaranteed to give you success!

1. Confidence

By the time you’re in your thirties, you should understand that other people’s opinions just aren’t that important. You can’t base your happiness, or the way you see life, off of someone else’s opinion.

It’s time for you to focus on your life and do what’s necessary to get the results you want. At the end of the day, the people around you have a life too, and problems of their own to take care of.

2. Forgiveness

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.

It’s important to let go of what hurts you and learn to forgive. This is the key to a healthy adulthood and healthy relationships.

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3. Responsibility

You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.
Abraham Lincoln-

When you take responsibility for your actions and their consequences, you start taking charge of your life.

Keep in mind that responsibility is to be applied in every single aspect of life: relationships, work, spirituality, etc.

4. Frugality 

Thrift is not an affair of the pocket, but an affair of character.
-S.W. Straus-

Energy, time and money are the three things that you should start to save at this point in order to have a more productive life.

We live in a world that teaches us that having what we want at a certain point in time is desirable, but the reality of it is very different. If you spend every penny you make or have bad sleeping habits, it’s time to fix it.

Though it’s true that the present is most important, the future is going to catch up with you and you want to be prepared.

5. Good judgement 

What are your friends like? Are they a good influence or are you only friends with them to feel like you belong to something?

In your thirties you need friends that support you in the bad times and complement the good ones.

If your friends aren’t bringing positivity to your life, don’t be afraid to accept it.  You don’t need to completely cut off the relationship, but don’t focus on it either. You can keep it and begin other more constructive ones.


6. Acceptance 

Good and bad things happen to everyone. Sometimes, good things happen to those whom we don’t believe to be good people.

The important part is that your understand that no one is conspiring against you to make your life miserable. Life is about accepting the bad stuff and learning how to deal with.

7. Gratitude 

Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.”

But now that you’re an adult, it’s time to reassess and rebuild those relationships. You don’t need to be with them all the time, but you spend time on those relationships. In the long run, you’ll be glad you did.

A successful person not only has an abundance of money, but of relationships that most likely helped him to get where he is today.

Your thirties are an amazing time to be alive. Are you ready to live life to the fullest?

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.