5 Habits To Be Nicer To Others

September 12, 2016

There are many people who are convinced they do not have to be nice. Surely at one point you’ve said the phrase, “Would it hurt to be a little nicer?” The truth is that even the most introverted person needs to be appreciated by others and acting as if they don’t need anyone or anything only brings negative consequences.

Being nicer to others facilitates relationships, integration into the group, reduces stress levels and even helps to create a more pleasant environment for everyone, including yourself. Being nice helps you improve your mood and feel better.

It’s amazing what can be accomplished with a smile or a kind gesture, even with one who strives to appear unfriendly, surly and unpleasant. Try it and see.

Why should you be nicer

Nice people are always surrounded by other nice people, have an active social and family life, and remember that there is always something to celebrate or something interesting to organize. Their social skills allow them to have healthy relationships and they can always count on others when they need them.

friends walking around happily

In the professional world, nice people are those who have better relationships with colleagues and clients, and have greater opportunities to broaden their career prospects. They are also those who most enjoy their work and, therefore, those who accumulate less stress and feel more satisfied with themselves.

In general, being more pleasant improves self-esteem and motivation, helps manage stress, and increases the chances of personal and professional success.

How to be nicer to others

We can all be always a little nicer. Incorporating certain habits in your behavior will help you be more pleasant and improve your relationships with others.

1. Do not act like a know-it-all

Know-it-alls are usually very unpleasant people. Nobody likes people who act like they know everything about everything, as if they were in possession of the absolute truth. If others ask your opinion, of course share it, but not with the intention of proving your wisdom.

If you think you can help, join the conversation discreetly, and make appropriate suggestions to help others ask you questions.

In all situations, if you really want to say what you know or what you think, do it so that others feel good about themselves, without making them look bad and showing you’re willing to help anyone in need.

2. Do not let your bitterness out

Many people bring to light insignificant arguments or situations in a conversation; things that come to mind or are out of place at a certain time. If you do not want to seem unpleasant, do not bring up your resentment. A conversation is not an excuse to hurt anyone.

Nice people don’t gain the admiration of others by berating others or letting their problems or negative feelings arise.

Do not make others the target of your outpourings or bring to light personal issues that affect you emotionally, even when they have to do with the conversation, and much less if they have no direct relation.

3. Be patient and listen to others

Although you may not like the conversation or think that what people are saying appears superficial or boring, be patient and let them speak. Don’t insinuate that you are displeased by the situation or show that you are bored by it.

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Let others speak and ask questions. Aside from showing your interest, this encourages others to keep talking. There is no way to look good without at least making effort to do this.

This doesn’t mean you have to put up with everything. Quite the opposite. You can take advantage of any excuse to withdraw subtly. The key is to not let them notice you’re fleeing. Nobody said it was always easy to be nice.

4. Make compliments and see the good in others

People like people who look at the details and are generous with compliments. Nice people smile when they see another person, greet warmly, ask about something they know the other person cares about or highlights some detail of their appearance in a positive way.

When you pay attention and make positive comments about others, people unconsciously remember you said something positive about them. Even if they do not remember what it was, it makes you seem more pleasant.

In addition, when you automatically smile genuinely at people, it gives the idea that you are a nice, even if they don’t know you well or have only heard of you.

5. Be generous

There are many ways to be generous. Moreover, generosity does not always imply anything to do with money. In any case, generosity shows genuine concern for others and a clear involvement in the situation.

hand giving a flower to the other

Whenever possible, offer more than what you have been asked for. If this is a business relationship, you can give a little more product, a little more time, be less strict with the conditions of the offers or give some kind of advertising gift. Be especially generous with children. Every little detail is always well received by adults.

Asking for help also is a nice thing to do, because we make others feel useful. 

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