3 Keys to Being More Spontaneous
Spontaneity is the ability to be natural and sincere in your way of thinking and acting. It does not have to do with doing or saying original or ingenious things, it simply applies to those who are transparent and show themselves as they are, both in their behavior and in their words. Being spontaneous is an indicator of emotional well-being.
A spontaneous person is free of maintaining an image, of pretending to be someone that they are not, and also has no problem when it comes to recognizing their failures and weaknesses. To be spontaneous is to be natural, and a spontaneous person does not need to hide themselves to show an improved version of themself.
“Nothing prevents us being natural so much as the desire to appear so”.
-François de La Rochefoucauld-
Spontaneity is also a great virtue that helps human relationships. When there are no hidden intentions, no indirect messages, everything is always easier. Because those who are spontaneous allow themselves to flow in any circumstance, and they create safe spaces and help us to be sincere, thanks to their naturalness.
It is easy to be spontaneous if you have self-confidence and great self-esteem. On the other hand, if a person has insecurities and a resistance to accept, being spontaneous becomes a little more complicated, but not impossible. So, if you want to increase your spontaneity to show yourself as natural and transparent, free of any kind of falsehood, you just have to read and put into action the following keys.
1. Follow your intuition
You will not be more spontaneous if you do not learn to listen to and trust your intuition. Paying attention to that little voice that inclines you towards something or someone at certain moments, without any reason, is important. What other way is there to get to know yourself and get in contact with your personality?
Your intuition is a combination of perceptions, previous information, and experiences. It is the first thing that comes to your mind, before any judgments and assessments appear, accompanied by fears or false beliefs.
Although it is not easy to listen to your intuition because you aren’t used to it, don’t give up. Try to trust yourself a little more, stop beating around the bush and let yourself go. Now, be very careful with those decisions and actions that involve significant risks. Sometimes, reflecting on what will happen is also necessary.
2. Leave your comfort zone
Leaving your comfort zone is a very positive decision that never fails and brings great benefits (although at first you might not perceive it that way). One of them is precisely that it helps you to be more spontaneous. However, the most important thing is that it will increase your self-confidence, which will make you believe more in yourself. This is how your natural side comes out.
Getting out of your comfort zone means doing things you would not normally do. Go to places you don’t know, change your routine in some way, disconnect from your phone for an afternoon … Just launch yourself into the unknown to leave comfort behind and continue discovering yourself in some way.
Also, with adventures away from your comfort zone, everything that makes you face your fears has a special value. You don’t have to go bungee jumping or skydiving, but simply decide to do something that you have never done out of fear, for example giving your opinion in your group of friends, instead of waiting for everyone to speak and saying what everyone else does. Dare to put yourself out there!
3. Clear your agenda to be more spontaneous
One of the biggest limitations to being spontaneous is having a strict and tight schedule. We might feel that we need to fill our schedule, so we organize it so that we don’t have a single hour free. And if there is one, we look for a way to fill it as soon as possible.
The road to spontaneity starts with reorganizing our schedule. The first thing you should do is always leave some free spaces and above all, make sure that these don’t get filled up with something else. Each week you should also change the times that you are free.
Another recommendation is to reflect on the importance of the commitments you have scheduled. Is it possible to get rid of any of them? Could a certain task be given to another person? Is it possible to leave a day completely free? In principle you may feel some discomfort, but if you want to be more spontaneous, this will help you achieve it.
As you can see, being more spontaneous happens when we accept, listen, and take care of ourselves. Beyond strategies, the most important thing is that you work to appreciate and value yourself more as a person. The rest is sculpting yourself. If you recognize your worth, the way you act will definitely become more spontaneous, even if it’s not on purpose… Don’t forget this!