3 Ingredients to Create a Good Life

October 24, 2016

Usually we want to cross out some stages of our lives, delete them from our life history because it seems that wherever we place our memory, we only find bitter memories. Failures, mistakes. Situations that came to us too early, opportunities we overlooked, or loves that made advances that we did not know how to approach.

Learning from the decisions we make and being responsible for them allows us to feel free throughout our lives. It all starts by accepting who we are. But our culture constantly invites us to question our choices, leading us to think that we are always wrong or we are not “good enough.”

When this happens, we may be victims of our own negative beliefs that we have created and nurtured. Thoughts are like rain, they are experts at finding the gaps in our strength to poison us. So that we deny ourselves. Because denying our time is to deny ourselves.

That said, our life continues simmering on low fire (sometimes higher) with many ingredients that we, little by little, throw in our bag or our pot, to our taste. If you want it to taste good, when you remember, you can try to throw in these three ingredients.

 “What good is regret if that doesn’t erase anything that happened. What’s better  than regret is simply changing.”

-Joseph Saramago-

1. Be proud to be yourself

It is common to confuse loving oneself and being happy about how how you act all the time with having a high ego or a selfish personality. There also may be people who try to make you feel less than what you are, but never forget that you have everything you need to feel proud of yourself.

When we speak of loving, respecting and caring about ourselves, we are not hurting anyone, but we are contributing to further developing our life. It is therefore vital to discard regret, once healed. We can learn to live fully and without ties to the past.

2. Be the one who takes the initiative

How often have we been warned that “we are too determined or bossy.” Taking the initiative leads us to take action and take the first step, while others are still thinking. Taking this step forward, in many cases is a smart decision, because otherwise it will be decided for us.

If this happens, remember that there is nothing wrong with being someone who created the first “movement“, since there is no experience more liberating than not depending on others to act to get what you want. If you want something go for it. Begin the road that leads you to it and understand that making mistakes and asking for forgiveness is as natural as being right and celebrating.

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3. Caring for your expectations

We tend to prefer the comfort of what’s familiar. Therefore, we excessively overthink the possible scenarios. Similarly it happens with relationships and the people we love.

Often these “preconceived ideas” do not happen as we had hoped and we begin to generate some emotions that are not very positive. We feel bad about it or feel we have failed with a certain person. Remember that this is a problem of one who generates these expectations, but not of one who must fulfill them. The most important thing is to take care of what we expect of ourselves. Not of anyone else.

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Whether it is to feel proud of yourself, to fulfill the expectations that you have generated for yourself or to not disappoint those you love, when you decide, always do it with the heart. That way you’ll keep collecting regrets, but they will not be bitter. They will even be accompanied by a sweet and mischievous smile by the adventure you experienced.

Thus, life does not cease to be an adventure, the only one and the most extraordinary. It is an adventure that you have been invited to and in which you have been given a lot of resources (even though they were less than others, but are still a lot) so that you live it wonderfully.

“In twenty years you will be more disappointed by the things you did not do than by the ones you did. So let go of the ropes, sail away from the safe harbor and catch the  winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

-Mark Twain-

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