Weekend Couples - A New Type of Relationship

Weekend Couples - A New Type of Relationship
Sara Clemente

Written and verified by psychologist and journalist Sara Clemente.

Last update: 21 December, 2022

Weekend couples. We don’t mean romantic getaways that couples take over the weekend to disconnect. Nor are we speaking of relationships that last only 48 hours and then dissolve never to return. We are talking about couples that only see each other on Saturdays and Sundays. But does living like you’re on a permanent honeymoon really work?

Normally, the people who form these couples are at the peak of their professional careers. They are usually between 25 and 35 years old and travel frequently. Because they don’t have very much time on workdays to dedicate to their partner, they decide to spend time with them during the weekend.

The reward of a daily sacrifice

Many relationships fail because of distance. By not renewing passion and love continuously, the kilometers end up making a dent in the relationship. However, this would not be a problem for those relationships that keep the flame of their love alive, at least during the weekend. Those two days are for them and them alone. And, in that way, they serve as a reward for the hard days of work.

In addition, because they miss each other for many days throughout the week, they have a tremendous desire to see each other on Saturday and Sunday. This lengthens the infatuation phase. That is to say, because they spend a lot of time apart working, each weekend feels like the first one together. It is like a kind of constant crush that highlights the positive aspects of the relationship. 

Another advantage of this type of romance is that, with so little time to share with the other, each partner gives the best of themselves. They do not usually waste time in absurd discussions. They confront conflicts in order to make the most of their time. In turn, this allows each to focus on what the other brings to the relationship.

coffee and biscuits

The cons are also plentiful when it comes to weekend couples

We have emphasized before that physical distance is one of the great challenges of any courtship or marriage. Weekend couples can also be victims of it. The insecurity that is created without daily contact can generate doubts and jealousy towards the other. This, fed daily, can become a reason for a breakup or even infidelity.

Furthermore, having a romantic getaway every weekend does not mean that the relationship moves forward. This way of living can stagnate things. Both partners can be too comfortable with the situation so neither takes a step forward.

This is a feeling that is equal parts impotence and conformism. It can generate a sensation of life spiraling out of control due to frustration, impatience, and even boredom

The more durable, the stronger

Although quantity may not be synonymous with quality, in this case, it seems to be. The longer a couple has been together, the stronger their ties and foundations will be. Because of this, a relationship is less likely to be broken by distance the longer it has already survived.

For example, let’s take the case of a year-long relationship in which one of the members must temporarily go to work in another country. The distance could even strengthen the bond between them. It puts the relationship to the test and, if it survives, becomes one more pillar of it.

On the other hand, if the relationship has only been growing for a few months, there is a high probability that there is not enough commitment to maintain it.

hands joined

Do you know if you are compatible?

Weekend couples live their relationships for a few hours. Saturday and Sunday they share a bed, meals, and time. But is this comparable to the day-to-day lives of a couple who live in the same house and have to face shared responsibilities?

This type of sporadic encounter does not allow us to see how the other performs household chores. Nor how they react when something bothers them, what manias they have, what they like to do when they get home, or how they cook. It is a somewhat superficial relationship. Some of these details may be glimpsed over the course of the weekend, but it is not the same.


Secrets of success in a relationship

But, weekend couples are a reality. No one can determine the duration of a relationship based on how they seem to outside observers or what the parameters of the relationship are. Only members of the relationship know what is really going on in their lives. 

However, there are certain characteristics that occur in all successful couples. Some of them are, for example: admiration, mutual respect, and the absence of co-dependence. In addition, the expectations of both must be realistic and based on one choice – love the other.

Of course, the basis must be communication and trust. You have to be able to talk about everything and express your point of view, without fear of being judged or rejected. Couples go through precious and happy moments, but in difficult times they must be able to say things as they believe them.

All these characteristics can be perfectly present in weekend couples. You only have to put on the table what each can contribute to the other. Only focus on how you live within the relationship, how the distance affects it, and if the situation makes you happy.

If you are both congenial, then this can be a very healthy and lasting relationship!

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.