A True Friend Shows Up When Everyone Else Is Gone

A True Friend Shows Up When Everyone Else Is Gone
Sergio De Dios González

Reviewed and approved by the psychologist Sergio De Dios González.

Last update: 21 December, 2022

A true friend will never leave you. In the darkest moments of your life, when everything may seem to lose its meaning and you see no way out, at the very moment when everyone else has left and there is nobody by your side, he shows up to console you and show you unconditional support.

A true friend can be your light when you find yourself stuck in the darkness, the motor that will help you get started in your moments of weakness and indecision, the piece that is missing to finish that fundamental puzzle that is your life. A true friend is a treasure.

What is a true friend?

How could we define a true friend? It is not easy to find the right words to describe that person who is by your side at all times, with rarely any exception. Maybe a quote from somebody who is much wiser than me will rid us of all our doubts:

“True friendship is like phosphorescence. It shines best when everything is dark”

Rabindranath Tagore

Friends With Arms Around Each Other

Because a person who loves you, someone who can call you their friend, will never leave you; they will be by your side whenever you need it, even if you do not call. The two of you will have a connection that nothing can break. Neither distance, nor problems, nor darkness will be able to separate a relationship that has united two souls in love, understanding, and affection.

The differences between a true friend and a false one

If you want to learn to differentiate between a true friend and a false one, maybe I can help you, given that I have run into all kinds of people throughout my life. Here are some characteristics that may help you to see the difference between a false friend and a true friend:

  • Anytime a true friend asks you for something, it is because they really need it. What’s more, if you really have a deep relationship, they will not have to say anything at all, because with a simple glance, you will know that they are in trouble and you will be moved to help them.
  • Never forget that a false friend is easily picked out. They will try to be an important person in your life, but they will probably only want something from you. Maybe they are a toxic person who stops you from growing as a person, the only thing they want from you is your money, or maybe they are jealous of you and really are trying to put stumbling stones in your path to justify your relationship and always have you tied down.
  • A true friend will never do anything that does you harm. The benefits of knowing them will come at no price and they will not feel the need to justify themselves with you. If you feel that someone who is by your side is trying to take advantage of you through their actions and words, and not because it comes directly from your heart without them having to ask for it, run away from this person, because they are very toxic and they are far from being what they tell you with their words. 
Friends Having Coffee

The shine of a true friend

A true friend shines in your heart at all times because they will never run away, no matter how many rough patches they may go through along the way. Even if things are looking dark and you want to get away from it all, they will stay by your side because they love you like nobody else in the world does.

You can make mistakes, and a true friend will tell you. They will sit down in front of you, look you in the eyes, and talk to you clearly, sincerely, and lovingly. You made a mess of things, but I am not going to leave you. I am going to help you on the difficult path that awaits you now so that you can keep your head above water after your mistake.

“Friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies; a heart that lives in two souls.”


You will never see a true friend flee a battle. You can be in a thousand wars, and they will always be there by your side to help you, support you, cover your back, point you down the right path, and give you good advice at all times. It does not matter if everything goes dark and the huge crowds that you had by your side go away.

At those moments when the light seems dim, when you need lanterns to stay on the path, it is precisely then that a true friend shines like the morning star and accompanies your soul to get out of any predicament. Think about these words.

Examine your relationships with the people around you. Listen to the people who go through life, each and every day, with you. Talk to your heart and look those around you in the eye. Only then will you know if one of those many people who are around you is a true friend or if they are only saying it or thinking they are one.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.