Sometimes You Have to Be Your Own Hero

Sometimes You Have to Be Your Own Hero

Last update: 29 March, 2017

One day, it will be your turn to be your own hero. You’ll have to tear off your clothes, lace up your rescuing shoes, and save yourself. There will be an emergency and you’ll have no other option than to be stronger than the danger.

It doesn’t matter if it’s the biggest earthquake of your life, or if you feel like your feelings are crashing into each other in a whirlpool. Sooner or later the time will come when you have to take out your claws and fight fiercely.

You might have someone who holds your hand with all the affection in the world, but at the same time, you’ll realize that your hand is the only one that can pull you out of the well. You won’t see the light until you destroy your demons yourself. At some point, it’ll be your turn to see yourself like you never wanted to, in a place you never wanted to go. And in the end, you’ll overcome it.

You have a heart to defend

You might think that you have the most robust, solid armor that exists. You probably don’t even think it’s possible that there is a storm brewing inside your soul because you’ve built such a high wall around it. It’s happened to all of us: we think that we’re stronger the more we’ve been hurt.

“Strength is in the heart, not the stomach.”

-Yasmina Khadra-

But you’re wrong. Deep down, you have a heart that isn’t immune to danger, even when you take every precaution you can imagine. You have a heart that you have to defend like a hero, no matter what happens or how old you are. It deserves that more than anything else because it gives meaning to your existence.

girl standing on car

That heart is an extraordinary achievement and the person who owns it should value it. Your heart carries your name and hopes that, in the scariest moments of its existence, you don’t turn your back on it for anything or anyone.

You are your most important hero

There are many other hearts around you that need to be taken care of. Remember that it’s good to help, to give advice, and it’s very noble to fight for the well-being of others. However, there will be temporary stages when you will be your most important hero and you’ll realize that you’re obligated to help yourself, give yourself advice, and fight for yourself.

“What I’m trying to say is that you don’t understand a man until you understand what makes him do what he does. Every man is a hero in his own story.”

-Branden Sanderson-

You’ll feel that you need empathy, compassion, trust, and security. Then you’ll notice that nobody can give you those things better than you. You’ll have to wrap yourself in understanding, forget about your own self-judgments, and manage the challenge of getting rid of your nightmares.

Just like a brave hero would do, you’ll believe in persistence and the drive that pushes you to deal with adversity to be a better person. And most importantly, there will be enough room for bravery that can look fear in the eye and conquer it.

There’s no other option but to get up and

If you were faced with a huge risk that you’d never encountered before, what would you do? Well, your survival instinct would drive you to hold your head up and be courageousThis is what it means to overcome: to not give up without trying first.

All heroes go through times of suffering, but they always overcome it.

person on cliff

There is no human that doesn’t cry or experience pain. You’ll get to know pain, but you won’t give up: the pain that hurts you so much will go away and you’ll learn from it. Moreover, everything that you did out of care for others on more than one occasion, you’ll have to do for yourself.

There won’t be any other option. You’ll be confused, discouraged, and you’ll be immersed in chaos, which will make you panic. Your world will become unstable and you’ll think that you won’t be able to balance yourself again. You’ll look for ways to do this, and you’ll become filled with doubt. This is when your hero – yourself – will demonstrate their strength and come to assist you. You owe it to yourself, don’t you?

Images courtesy of Jimmy Liao, Kevin Peterson

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.