Six Pep Talks You Should Give Yourself Today

How you speak to yourself influences your self-esteem and your mood. Check out some suggested pep talks you should say to yourself below!
Six Pep Talks You Should Give Yourself Today

Last update: 09 May, 2021

How many times have you waited for someone else to approve, acknowledge, and understand you, only to be disappointed because the actual pep talks you expected never materialized? You can’t depend on others to make you feel good. This is exactly why you should just give pep talks to yourself. You’re the most important person in your life after all.

Cultivating a relationship with yourself is an important process. This is because it involves changing the way you look at, talk to, and treat yourself. You may have hurt, judged, and betrayed yourself on multiple occasions over the years. However, there’s still time to repair the damage. The following pep talks are a starting point if you don’t know where to begin.

“Real optimism isn’t the pep talk you give yourself. It’s earned through the labor involved in emotional housekeeping.”

-Augusten Burroughs-

Six pep talks you should give to yourself

A woman enjoying herself.

Say you’re sorry

Say you’re sorry for all the times you’ve hurt yourself with your thoughts, words, and deeds. For being your most unforgiving judge and harshest critic. For all the times you’ve looked in the mirror and only criticized and rejected yourself.

Say you’re sorry for any bad habits that damage your body and mind and for prioritizing other people and forgetting your needs, desires, and preferences. You should also say sorry for keeping quiet when someone disrespected you and for staying in harmful environments and relationships.

The most important pep talks you can give to yourself: self-forgiveness

Forgive yourself for all the mistakes you’ve made and realize that you did the best you could. Thus, you should recognize that perhaps you didn’t have the knowledge or the tools you have now, that you couldn’t see situations as you see them now. Forgive yourself because you know you aren’t guilty for what happened. Thus, free yourself from those burdens and try to move forward.

Say thank you

Thank yourself for making it this far, for being who you are today. Thank yourself for overcoming pain, fear, and sadness and for moving forward, giving the best of you. For your perseverance, courage, and strength. Do so to recognize and value each of your good deeds, even if nobody else perceived or rewarded them. You saw them and still see them. Thus, thank yourself for all the kindness, compassion, and generosity you’ve given over the years.

You can do it

Yes, you can, because you’re a valuable and capable person and have the qualities and determination to achieve what you set out to do. You can try even if you’re sometimes afraid and insecure. If you make mistakes, you can accept and improve them. You’re as valid as anyone else and have everything you need to work on your goals and achieve them.

You have your back

Yes, you depend on other people, but you’re also autonomous on many levels. You enjoy, value, and appreciate the company and affection others can give you but you don’t need it because you’re unconditional to yourself. Thus, you’re there in every success and every failure. You celebrate during your happy moments and embrace yourself in your sad days. Furthermore, you understand yourself when you’re moody. This is because you’re your best friend, your greatest support, and your safe haven. You can always count on yourself.


You accept yourself as you are, with all your virtues and defects, can see yourself without filters, and contemplate your lights and shadows and these don’t keep you from accepting yourself. Indeed, you estimate your value here and now. In addition, you’re careful with the words you use to address yourself because you respect yourself.

A woman giving a pep talk to herself.

Use these pep talks to improve your relationship with yourself

All these pep talks can help you improve your self-esteem and have a direct and positive impact on your life. You’ll only have to use a few of them once. For example, you don’t have to remember every mistake you’ve made, recognize them, forgive yourself, and move on every day.

Of course, others can encourage you at specific moments. You’ll need to hear that you can confront a new or threatening situation and remember that you’re there to comfort yourself when you’re sad.

However, other pep talks can become a mantra for your life. Feeling gratitude for who you are, accepting yourself, and being thankful for your fortunate breaks can bring about a significant change in your attitude and mood. Talk to yourself whenever you need to!


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