The Process of a Child's Emotional Development

How and when do children develop emotionally? Read on to discover the answer!
The Process of a Child's Emotional Development

Last update: 06 June, 2020

A child’s emotional development makes them aware of the origin and development of their emotions. They begin to read them in other people’s facial expressions, and thus interpret them according to the social context (1). The change and growth expected of them on an emotional level stems from two areas. On the one hand, from the experiences that occur in their context, and, on the other hand, from their maturity.

That’s why they start to set certain emotional goals regarding themselves and others. They do this by taking into account the context and the situation. The way in which children show different types of emotions varies substantially depending on their past experiences. It also has a lot to do with their learning history. This, as a result, leads to important achievements in understanding, emotional regulation, and empathic response (3).

Below, we share three aspects of children’s emotional development that allow us to see how emotionally competent they are (2).

A surprised girl.

Emotional understanding

Acquiring understanding during a child’s emotional development is especially important. On the one hand, we have an understanding of their emotions and, on the other, the understanding of emotional ambivalence and rules of expression.

Understanding emotions and learning to look at things by using our emotions is something that develops at an early age. Boys and girls, during preschool, experience increasingly diverse situations that generate different emotions (2). They start understanding their emotions when they start to consider other children and also what they want or need.

Their emotional perspectives and level of understanding often depend on the society they grow up in and the family home. Ultimately, what children believe and expect is related to contextual factors and their personal constitution (4).

Society encourages different rules to express emotions. Children acquire an understanding of these rules through modeling and indirect learning. Thus, cultural factors set limits and rules for emotional expression. Understanding these rules of emotional expression involves aspects such as:

  • The intensity of the expression
  • Its persistence
  • Inhibitions

Another aspect is that of understanding emotional ambivalence, which is the capacity we need to understand, get to know, and discriminate the presence of several conflicting emotions (2). The possibility of understanding this is a basic point for small children to acquire dexterity when it comes to managing stable relationships with big emotional loads (5).

Emotional regulation as part of children’s emotional development

Emotions are how we make contact with reality. Therefore, in order to achieve this, they need to be flexible and consistent with the situation, as well as with their objectives.

There are many ways of using strategies to regulate our emotional levels, as it’ll always depend on the individual situation. Gradually, children learn that some strategies are effective for certain situations and that these depend on what they hope to achieve from them.

The flexibility in how they manage, develop, and internalize them will show the usefulness of regulation in adjusting adaptive behavior and social-emotional adjustment (6).

A child's emotional development.

Empathy in emotional development in children

Empathy is the ability of a person to understand someone else’s emotional situation and also to respond positively to how that person is feeling. (2). Because of that, empathy is an emotional component that only arises after the child achieves the following (2):

  • First of all, the ability to understand their own emotions.
  • Secondly, the ability to understand other people’s emotions.
  • Third of all, the ability to regulate their own emotions.

These three aspects are aimed at social situations that allow the child to analyze the scope of their goals, highlight emotional actions, and also to understand the reason why they feel different emotions (7).

This is why many factors affect a child’s emotional development. However, it should be noted that, in order to develop the strategies mentioned above, their family and social environment must allow them to be able to develop their emotions correctly.

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