Overcoming Your Inferiority Complex
We all have a tendency to feel like we’re worth less than everybody else. The media and marketing that surrounds us makes us feel less beautiful, less smart, less fun, etc. If you let yourself get carried away by these emotions and everything they generate, you’ll find yourself living a very sad life. In order to avoid this, you have to strengthen your self-esteem.
I know that’s easier said than done. It’s not simply about getting out of bed and saying “from now on nothing will affect me.” Well, you can make this choice but, unfortunately, things don’t always work out the way we’d like. Thus, strengthen your self-esteem by following the steps below and you’ll see how the inferiority complex will slowly leave your life.
Admit that you have an inferiority complex
I know that recognizing that you’re a victim of inferiority complex is complicated. But admitting that you have this problem strengthens your self-esteem immediately. Of course, you’ll have to keep working on it, but this is a vital step.
Try to identify when this inferiority complex started. The reasons behind it will make it easier to create a strategy to attack what’s making you feel inferior.
I’m sure that it involves a difficult and painful process, but it will give you the keys to determine the best path possible. Don’t be afraid of what you can discover; it’s worse to live without accepting and loving yourself just the way you are.
Identify the symptoms of an inferiority complex
Whenever you face a situation where your inferiority complex is triggered, certain very specific sensations are produced such as nausea, tremors, excessive sweating or nerves.
Strengthen your self-esteem by identifying these sensations and giving yourself a minute to analyze them: What’s this about? What does this remind you of? What can you do to keep going? Don’t run away from these sensations. They are great, because they let you know that you are facing something real, and guide you towards the path that strengthens your self-esteem.
Stop feeding your complex
Strengthen your self-esteem by removing all of your attention from the things that awaken your complex. Most complexes are born out of characteristics that make us feel bad about ourselves. But let me tell you a secret: many times the things that make you feel inferior don’t even exist to other people.
Try to view the situation from the outside, and you’ll see that this is true. Become close with someone with whom you have an excellent relationship, and ask them if they also have a complex about something. You’ll discover that what they think is so bad, to you… well you hadn’t even noticed it! The same thing applies to you.
What you need to do now is to give the things you don’t like about yourself less importance. Imagine they’re not there, and go on with your life as you always did. At first, it will be hard for you, but this attitude strengthens your self-esteem over time.
Focus on something positive
The more time you spend thinking about what you don’t like and the things that make you feel inferior, the less you’ll feel willing to live your life. Keep moving forward and strengthen your self-esteem with activities that you enjoy. If you don’t have a hobby now, it’s about time to find one.
Find new passions like sports or practice old habits like painting, or simply go out with friends. Your complexes will be as important as you allow them to be, so take away their ability to affect you. Have you ever thought that that “defect” that you find so bad is viewed as a feature that makes you unique in the eyes of others?
Strengthen your self-esteem
The worst thing you can do in life is to stop living because of your complexes. You are an interesting person with many unique qualities, and you have a lot to offer to the people around you. Don’t close yourself off to life or to living with others just because you don’t like something about yourself. We all have defects that we don’t like, but the secret to a happy life is learning to live with them.
Strengthen your self-esteem. Remember that the only person who decides how you live your life is you. Do you prefer to hide or to live your life fully? I’d recommend you to choose the second option, and live each day as if it were the last.