Our Encounter Was Inevitable
Throughout our lives we encounter many people. Some of them teach us things that will be useful to us for the rest of our lives, and others don’t teach us anything, or at least that’s what we think.
Other people pass through our lives without forming a mutual understanding or friendship with us, but they still leave a mark on our way of understanding the world.
“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”
I once read that you should try to be the kind of person you would want to meet. This is difficult, and many times I doubt who I am and where the truth lies, but it’s true that the more I reflect inwardly and the more I prove myself, the better I feel in my own skin.
I’m not going to lie, my existence isn’t influenced by a great sense of spirituality, by great human work, or by a fascination with one particular realm of life. What fascinates me is the people who have passed through my life and who have sparked my interest in things that seemed dull before I met them.
Because happiness is not real if it is not shared. But if it’s shared with someone who doesn’t add anything to our lives, then solitude is more restful and calm.
For this reason, I define my history based on the magical encounters that I’ve had with people. The ones that warm my heart, make my eyes water nostalgically, and help me to find myself.
I have drawn conclusions about each and every one of the little angels that have come into my life. In each case, I hope that our subsequent transformations have served something positive for both of us and that this exquisite intimacy that we shared has given shelter during hard times.
Because sometimes it’s good to look back to know what lessons people have taught us, and what we hope for from now on.
There are a few things that these people have left me with after transforming my soul. This is what I look for in other people:
- An sense of humor; it should be as irreverent as our friendship or our love.
- Silence is a divine quality, which is only appreciated and shared when communication becomes so true that you don’t need to talk too much. Sometimes, people separate themselves more when they talk endlessly.
- My intimacy is something that I give to you. There’s no need to talk about what even I don’t understand about myself, or what I never understood about others. I like the intimacy that we’ve created together, I’m not interested in what we have separately.
- I don’t care about their past. If they’re not faking it in the present, then I applaud their turbulent past because it has made them who they are now.
- I like to preserve my habits and rarities, and for the other person to do the same. Wonderful things happen when both people share what they are passionate about.
- It’s not enough for me to know that I am important; they have to show me.
- Morals don’t interest me. Values interest me, but only if they alleviate suffering and pain. Money doesn’t interest me. Class does, but that is in danger of extinction.
- I’m interested in people who don’t deny the amazing reaction that we had upon meeting, however long it lasts, because what lives in the heart never expires.
So never be sad to see someone part from your life if they’ve left this kind of impression on you. Take comfort in knowing you’ve both been transformed forever.
“Little things. I think it’s the same with people. I see in them little details, so specific to each of them, that move me, and that I miss, and will always miss. You can never replace anyone, because everyone is made of such beautiful specific details.”