You Have No Owner, You Belong to Life

You Have No Owner, You Belong to Life
Sergio De Dios González

Written and verified by the psychologist Sergio De Dios González.

Last update: 28 July, 2022

You love freedom above anything else. You get rid of your bonds, chains and of possessions. You don’t let other people hold you back and keep you from continuing on your path towards your dreams. You have no owner. Only you are your owner, only you dominate your life.

You don’t want bosses, or people to control you. You’ve learned to say no to what you don’t like, to what doesn’t make you happy. You’ve finally managed to be free and you want to take care of that freedom, the great conquest of your life, every aspect of your existence.

To love without losing our freedom

Let the person you love be free, let them be who they want to be, and let them allow you to develop your personality as you wish to do. Remember that we all belong to life itself. Many times we have heard phrases like: “I can’t live without you,” “I’m nothing without you,” “If you leave, I’ll die.” These phrases may sound very romantic, but if we think about what they mean with a cool head, it really refers to a very unhealthy kind of love.

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Just as the psychologist Walter Riso says, it’s much nicer to say: “I don’t need you, but I choose to be with you.” “I want to share my life with you. Not out of necessity, but out of pure free choice.” Or one phrase that envelopes the previous ones: “I love you, but I don’t need you. To need someone is not good, since it’s linked to being subject to another person, and love is freedom. 

Be the owner of your own will, learn to say no

How many times have you said yes to something when you really wanted to say no? It’s time to stop being afraid to say no. It’s not a bad thing. It’s healthy. We’re afraid of others’ reactions and the consequences to our naysayings, but have you ever stopped to think about what has happened the times you’ve said no? Surely, nothing bad.

Use your abilities to be assertive and not end up being too tough when you deny. But stay firm when you say no. Ask yourself how you’d feel if you give in to doing something that doesn’t make you happy.

Be loyal to your dreams, to your life

Sometimes in order to reach our dreams, we have to overcome the things that keep us from moving forward. And one way to do that is to stop doing what we always do. That way we drastically change our way of acting, our parameters, and we dare to see things a different way.

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The life you want to live is the one you imagine, not the one that others think it should be. Some people like the idea of having a mate for life. Others like to enjoy people and share moments without being tied down.

Some people are drawn to the idea of a steady job and other prefer to have the liberty to choose what they want to do at any moment. All of these options are valid and respectable, as long as they are your choice.

Therefore, be loyal to what you desire, to your dreams, to what ignites your passions. Because when you do something that satisfies and excites you, nothing will be able to keep you down. Everyone will feel your enthusiasm, and you’ll be the owner of your life. Follow your instinct, your intuition and your heart. Let them guide you and be your advisers.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.