No One Is Emptier Than He Who Is Full Of Himself

· June 22, 2016

There is no one emptier than he who is full of himself. When you are closed off and living alone in a bubble, your heart becomes selfish and your narcissistic interests prevent you from enriching yourself with all that the world offers.

That is why it is said that these narcissistic people, those who are only interested in “the first person,” become coarse, rude and hesitant, even though their beliefs make them think that their coldness and “great” identity are a great example for the world.

This is because these narcissistic people do not realize they become untreatable in their selfishness, while simultaneously losing the opportunity to enjoy thousands of things at once, that are becoming increasingly empty and lacking substance.

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8 voids within narcissists

Sadly, narcissistic people have to live with many voids because of their lack of interest in others and their self-centeredness. Let’s look over a few of them:

1. Empathy

Their constant “me, myself and I’s” cause them to lose the ability to put themselves in another person’s shoes. It’s not that they aren’t interested, but it becomes a matter of habit. This is why people who are narcissists, day after day, lose the ability of mutual understanding, because they only manage to validate their feelings by attending to their own interests and needs.

2. Healthy self-esteem

At this point it should be remembered that a person’s understanding and acceptance of their inner-self  becomes necessarily diminished because narcissists fail to discover themselves beyond what their imagination creates and recreates.

Therefore, because of these projections, they cultivate a false sense of self, failing to achieve self-awareness or to fully love themselves.

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3. Loyalty and honesty

Honesty and loyalty express respect for one’s self and others. Because of their self-centeredness, narcissistic and selfish people miss the opportunity to trust.

4. Love

Is there anything sadder than not knowing the power of love? Loving and being loved requires consideration, respect, responsibility and values.  It is for this reason that a person who is incapable of loving anyone but themselves will not be able to further carry out a feeling as deep as that which is love, drastically limiting their emotional repertoire.

5. Patience and humility

Narcissists are not able to tolerate and accept other people’s opinions, feelings, behavior or thoughts if they are different from theirs. This is why they position themselves on the empty side, preventing a positive attitude towards relationships and diversity, skewing their inner dialog and their own social and emotional growth.

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6. Responsibility

A person who thinks only of themselves is unable to respond and take responsibility for their actions among the rest of society. As a result, an even greater social isolation is produced, as well as a strong immaturity.

7. Life and freedom

Narcissistic people have voids of life and freedom because they are subject to their personal beliefs and thoughts, limiting their attitudes and their desires, whether they are conscious of this or not. A free person detests possessing or boasting power, because in the exact moment when that happens, they become a slave of their own job, thereby giving up their life and desires.

8. Identity

This is, if anything, the hardest and most consistent with all the aforementioned voids. A person who thinks only of themselves and who only knows how to admire and love their own qualities is devoid of identity.

That is to say that whoever believes that they are better than anyone else can never hope to grow or advance in the world, will be limited to hearing their own version of their existence and will only be able to remain in the bitterness of their empty aspirations, devoid of any and all emotion.

Main Image courtesy of Benjamin Lacombe

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