There is No Lack of Time, Just Lack of Interest

There is No Lack of Time, Just Lack of Interest
Raquel Aldana

Written and verified by the psychologist Raquel Aldana.

Last update: 21 February, 2022

People say that there is no such thing as a lack of time, but rather a lack of interest. When someone truly wants something, early mornings become the start to their days and any and every moment becomes an opportunity.

When you wait on others, you will only be disappointed and suffer as a result. The fact of the matter is that when a person in your life shows a lack of interest, it hurts a lot. It goes beyond disappointment. It can feel like painful jabs to the stomach, as if something from inside were ripping apart your soul.

In the moment you are hurt, there is nothing you can do to alleviate that pain. Maintaining your sanity in the face of neglect and humiliation already requires a great amount of effort.

The truth is that we are all greatly changed by both time and painful experiences. This constant change is difficult because that which we wanted to share with someone today may not reflect very well on us tomorrow. Nevertheless, that does not justify a lack of sincerity, nor a false relationship with others. 

girl with butterflies in forest interest

Accepting the falseness of time passed 

Sadly, falseness and hypocrisy are such slippery slopes that we often find them in the places we least expect them, and don’t see them until it is too late. Usually, the hope that someone or something is who or what we think it is can lull us into a false sense of security. In reality, we should always be on our guard.

In that false sense of security is where we run into trouble. The truth is that self-interest is a common trait in people, and those who are not governed by it usually are the most likely victims of it. If you are one of those victims, it can be very difficult to open your eyes and see the truth of what is happening. It can be so challenging because we resist believing the idea that someone we consider an important part of our life could ever be insincere.

Normally, false or self-interested people are those who neither enjoy life, nor let others around them enjoy it. When they are asked for explanations of their behavior they become irritated and try to avoid confrontation at all cost.

It is likely that they will devour you with caustic words in such a way that you, hungry for acceptance, will feed off of the bittersweet hope they give you.

Give the gift of your absence to those who don’t care about your presence 

Sometimes you can waste time insisting on seeing someone who makes no effort to see you. You lose time forcing situations that you think are necessary. You often fall into the trap of looking for something without letting it find you.

When you realize this, something breaks inside and the disappointment, fear, and sadness can be overwhelming. In that moment, you realize that you cannot wait on someone who does not want to be waited for.

This whole chain of events sets into motion the difficult process of self-protection. This process requires the recovery of your understanding of life and the blocking of those kinds of hurtful and selfish people from entering your life.

watercolor girl with bubbles and butterfly interest

Surround yourself with the people you like, and be happy 

Commit to the values that you find fundamental and essential in life. Enjoy the sensitivity, the goodness, and the respect that can be found in unlikely places. Revel in the beauty of humility, confidence, faith, gratitude, wisdom, sincerity, love, friendship, caring, and unconditionality.

Keep the most important people and things close to you. Cast out whatever is despicable and cruel. Don’t pay any attention to toxic people. Seek out your oxygen; count to three and just breathe. Inhale deeply and feel the breath of mental and emotional air fill you. Acknowledge your emotions and how it makes you feel.

Surround yourself with all the people that make you feel like the world is a place that is worth it. Always keep with you that cover of self-protection to use on difficult and stormy days. Reject all those people who under-appreciate you. Never beg for anyone else’s time, and cut out those people who can’t seem to find even a moment to give you.

Free yourself from everything that imprisons you. Let life surprise you. Don’t hope for anything from anyone, only from yourself. The rest will come when you least expect it.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.