Love Shouldn't Be a Roller Coaster

Love Shouldn't Be a Roller Coaster

Last update: 05 February, 2016

It’s a fact that relationships change and that love ends. However, when these changes are happening overnight, or on a regular basis, it may be time to evaluate the relationship. 

When we experience inconsistent caring or love from our partner it begins to make us insecure in the relationship. We try to excuse the person who ignores us, shows indifference and even hurts us. We endure sleepless nights, tear apart our self-esteem, say goodbye to our pride and break apart our self-love into crumbs.

Love that is conditional, or on-again-off-again affection is not true love. Once you accept this, you realize that you must dedicate yourself to self-love. If you cultivate your relationship with yourself, you will create a healthy foundation which will never allow you to destroy yourself again.


In the end, it boils down to understanding that someone who can not prevent you from suffering does not deserve your love. Love is complicity and comradeship, which means being able to trust each other. Loving also implies a responsibility, to make the bad times more bearable, enjoy the good, going hand in hand and accompanying one another.

4 signs that you are not being valued

  1. They don’t try to save you from suffering because their life is worth more. The fact that their pride, work or interests are worth more than your well-being is a sign that there is something very wrong going on between you two.
  2. They don’t cater to your requests and even make you feel guilty or selfish when you ask to breathe. 
  3. The small details are absent. You no longer share anything, practically. Not because you don’t want to, but because everything comes before you two, or rather, before you. They have no interest in making you feel special or keeping the spark alive.
  4. They don’t worry about you. You may feel that the person is closer to you through the good times rather than the bad, although they’re probably not by your side regardless of the circumstance. What other proof do you need to realize that something is not going well?

It’s not worth moving mountains for someone who does not move a stone for you. It is time to start removing people who do not value you from your life. Free yourself and free your emotions…

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.