Love and Addiction: Why Are They Connected?
In some way, we’re all familiar with the idea of love. However, different cultures understand it in different ways. The neural system of pleasure is fundamental to this experience. However, contrary to what you may think, love is linked more to the motivational system than to the emotions (see bibliography, reference 1). Therefore, what do love and addiction have in common?
The behavior that takes place in love and addiction can be explained by the neurochemistry of the brain. Thus, love is related to certain functions in the central nervous system, and with certain nuclei and neurotransmitters. These have, as their only purpose, the couple’s attachment for reproduction purposes, and also for the care of the offspring (see bibliography, reference 2).
Love and addiction: what they have in common in the brain
The chemistry of romantic love
When we’re attracted to a person, in many cases, the first thing that happens in our brain is a kind of need to be sexually gratified. This process is influenced by hormones (of course), specifically estrogens and androgens.
This leads to romantic love. This is the process of focusing our attention on a particular person for reproduction purposes. In addition to this, there’s also the need for an emotional union with that person (1). At this stage, in your body, there’ll be:
- An increase in dopamine and norepinephrine.
- A decrease in serotonin.
Finally, there’s a stage in the lives of couples where they should take care of their children. During this stage, an important emotional union occurs, as well as a feeling of comfort. The following neuropeptides influence this behavior:
Behavior during infatuation
Some of the behaviors that can be observed when falling in love are the following (1):
- Emotional dependence.
- Fear of rejection.
- Anxiety about separation.
- Reordering of daily priorities in order to be available for that person.
- Sexual desire for that person.
- A desire for emotional bonding.
Therefore, we can explain all these behavior patterns by using neurochemistry. Let’s see what happens:
When dopamine increases, our attention increases. As a result, we’ll tend to consider the other person as unique. This can cause:
- A loss of appetite and sleep.
- Increased breathing frequency.
- Mood changes.
- Despair if the relationship ends.
It seems that all these manifestations can also occur in drug dependency, such as when using cocaine or amphetamines.
- When norepinephrine increases, there’s a fixation on the positive qualities of the loved one. In doing so, the negative qualities are dismissed.
- The decrease of serotonin creates obsessive thoughts towards the person we love. This, coincidentally, also occurs in obsessive disorders.
The common factors between love and addiction: cocaine withdrawal syndrome and falling in love
Withdrawal syndrome occurs with two types of dependencies (1):
- Physical dependence. This is created by a state of adaptation in the body, thus producing physical changes when the administration of cocaine is suppressed.
- Psychological dependence. This is created by a state of satisfaction and well-being, motivated by the consumption of cocaine. It induces the individual to repeat its administration in order to continue in that state or to avoid the appearance of withdrawal symptoms.
The authors Glawin and Kleber (1986) established three phases in cocaine withdrawal syndrome:
- Phase 1. The “crash”. Occurs from nine hours to four days after last taking the drug. This is a state of great despondency, accompanied by depression, anhedonia, insomnia, irritability, anxiety, and a strong desire to consume again.
- Phase 2. Abstinence. This lasts from one to ten weeks. It starts from the fifth day after the last use of cocaine. It’s followed by anhedonia, dysphoria, anxiety, irritability, and a feeling of intense boredom and craving.
- Phase 3. Extinction. This has an undetermined duration. The basic emotional state is recovered, with a normalized anhedonic response.
It may seem strange to you, but the fact is that love and addiction, at least to cocaine, share this withdrawal syndrome. In the case of a breakup, this abstinence syndrome is in relation to the loved one.
In short, it seems that we can compare the stages of love to the stages in an addiction. It so happens that our behavior in addictions and in love are quite similar, even to the point of having the same neurochemical foundations and behaviors.
Cocaine withdrawal has the most similarities to the loss of a partner. This is why we can state that science supports the hypothesis that love, in many ways, resembles an addiction.It might interest you...
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Maureira, F. (2009). Amor y adicción: comparación de las características neurales y conductuales. Revista Chilena de Neuropsicología, 4(2), 84-90.
- Fisher, H.; Aron, A.; Mashek, D.; Li, H. and Brown, L. (2002) The neural mechanisms of mate choice: a hypothesis. Neuroendocrinology Letters, 23: 92-97.
Gawin, F. H., & Kleber, H. D. (1986). Abstinence symptomatology and psychiatric diagnosis in cocaine abusers: clinical observations. Archives of general psychiatry, 43(2), 107-113.