If Life Gives You Wonderful People, It Is Because You Deserve It

If life gives you wonderful people, it is because you deserve it, because good things do not fall from the sky just because.

With friendship, things happen almost in the same way as with love: people believe they know everything. They look at themselves as having doctorates in relationships and their master’s degree in emotions. However, they are incapable of reading their partner’s gaze or the apathy of their supposed friends for life who stopped trusting them a long time ago.

Wonderful people are those who enter into your life without warning, and whom you never want to leave. The most exceptional people are by your side not by chance, but because you deserve them, because you know very well how much their soul is worth and the nobleness of their hearts.

If we have people by our side who enrich our lives, it is because we do understand how those foundations work that are built of respect, the magic of shared silences.

There are people who are your home

Maybe this is your partner, your family, your friends, or why not, all of them. We all have an emotional home, a very intimate map where small stories are traced and where a single language is spoken: that of sincere affection, of emotions that help us grow and that heal. That home, we must never forget, is one that requires a lot of work.

Friendship, like love, is cared for each and every day, and we must take care of its roots so that this bond is strong, worthy, and capable of facing up to any storm.

The inhabitants of our personal emotional home are like that rose that the Little Prince cares for with dedication on his little planet, knowing that it is different from any other, simply because it is his.

Wonderful people can show up by chance. But who will stay at our sides, only time will tell. We cannot forget that in every home, there are battles and differences, on every personal map there are scars and also footprints that give life and form to what we are today.

The love and friendship that those exceptional people offer us define us as well, because we share the same stories, because we have walked down the same paths; we know what they are worth and we deserve them because of that, too.

Wonderful people and ephemeral people

The first study on the impact of friendship on our health was conducted in 1979 and lasted almost nine years. It was carried out in California and something was discovered that we all know today: having a good support system with which to share our experiences, fears, good and bad times notably reduces the risk of suffering from infections, heart attacks, or strokes.

Having marvelous people by our sides is a synonym for well being and health. However, positive and truly meaningful relationships in our lives can barely be counted on the fingers of one hand. What is amiss? Well, in reality we cannot talk about “amiss” but rather about conducts and behaviors in which we are free (or not) from fitting them into our personal homes.

People who come and go and souls that last

Thanks to social networks, people are starting to establish friendships based on common interests. We form groups and subgroups on Facebook where we can share experiences, dreams, and desires. So then, many of these friendships are ephemeral or connected to only one very concrete type of activity or need.

There are friends who come and go, who last as long as a work contract, a month’s lease. Since getting along well with everyone is not an obligation, there are friendships that simply end.

Extraordinary people arrive as you continue getting to know yourself better and realizing that you have formed your own home, that your people are your territory, and that investing in them is investing in your own life, in your health, and in your own destiny.

There are people who like to say that “I do not deserve the friends or family that I have,” but this is a mistake. We deserve them because we value them, because we care for them, and because we love having them at our side, exactly the way they are. In all their essence, all their magic. We deserve to be happy and to learn each and every day from our wonderful people.