Your presence, speech, and personality influence the way people see you. Some of us are perceived as more charismatic and others as more timid. But can we shape our personality? Is it possible to be more charismatic and get that special magnetism?
While other qualities may be more difficult to develop, anyone can become more charismatic if they put their mind to it. Do you want to know how? We’ll give you some tips.
Charismatic people exude spirit, elegance and harmony
If we try to define “charisma”, certain famous names probably come to mind, like perhaps Meryl Streep, Winston Churchill or Barack Obama. What do they all have in common?
Charismatic people have the ability to grab our attention and arouse admiration. They’re easy to relate to. They have a unique magnetism that attracts others, and captivating self-confidence. We want to spend hours talking with them or just enjoying their company.
They are people who come to a social gathering and automatically become the center of attention. But not because they make a fuss or act crazy, but just because of who they are. What makes them so special?
5 keys to being more charismatic
The first thing you have to do is make sure that others know they can count on you. When you talk to them, keep direct eye contact most of the time. But, doing it all the time is not recommended, because it can be intimidating and really uncomfortable.
“The reason we’re successful, darling? My overall charisma, of course”.
Your gestures must should be calming. Your movements should be harmonious, without an ounce of nervousness or worry. If a leader loses their credibility, it is hard for them to get back up on their feet. Try rehearsing in the mirror before giving a speech or presentation. This way, you will be able to add in those little details that will generate trust in your audience.
Cultured, but understandable language
It’s essential to show that you are an educated person with a rich, varied vocabulary. Charismatic people are good communicators and know how to get people to consider what they’re saying. How? They use language that’s easily understandable and accessible by all, but with a hint of education.
Be especially careful about trying to show you did your homework. Using overly complicated, flashy, or technical words can make you seem arrogant or conceited. Always respect the other person’s turn to speak, even if you completely disagree with them. Also, it is a good idea to not criticize others. Use a little ingenuity and creativity to show another perspective or enrich theirs.
To look kind and well-educated, you want your audience to respect your words and listen. We recommend that you use “we” instead of “I”, because others will feel included and like you have common goals.
Use an average volume and a varied tone of voice
How many times have you listened to politicians saying things that make no sense but cheered for them simply because of the tone they used! What is said is just as important how it is said.
The secret is to not hesitate, speak in circles, or use just one rhythm. Pausing helps you capture your listener’s attention. Make pauses after important parts that you want your audience to remember.
Talking too fast or too slow makes people mistrustful of you, or just irritated. The same thing goes with using an excessively sharp or serious tone. Of course, to accentuate key words in your speech you can raise your volume slightly but naturally.
The way you stand is very important. You should keep your head high and straight, without twisting it sideways. If you want to emphasize something, you can raise your chin slightly.
It is important not to let your shoulders hunch, and to always keep them at the same height. It’s not necessary to be stiff as a pole, but do stand straight. This position shows tenacity and nonconformity, things that charismatic people have. For them, their discontent leads them to action and, therefore, to change.
A modest wardrobe
Although a habit does not make a monk, the clothes you wear can help you be more charismatic. It is not a matter of wearing expensive or brand-name clothing, but about choosing the right clothes. You might notice a theme by now; it’s about moderation.
For women, wearing low necklines, shoes with excessively high heels or bright colors can distract instead of attract attention. It’s better to choose a sober style, something you feel comfortable wearing. Accessories can help you complete your look.
For men, the best option is to wear a classic suit. With a light-colored shirt and matching tie, it’ll be a hit for sure. You can even get rid of your tie and even replace your jacket with a blazer.
You don’t have to be a leader to be charismatic, but most leaders are charismatic. While there is no charisma manual and some are just born with it, practice can indeed go a long way. Being more charismatic opens doors. Why not follow these guidelines and see what happens? If you want different results, do something differently!