How to Have Good Arguments with Your Partner

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Last update: 13 August, 2019

The world of relationships can sometimes be a bit complicated. It’s a social relationship in which two people love each other, but they don’t always agree on everything. However, they have to live together and are forced to try to come to an agreement in some way or another.

Arguing with your partner is not a strange or uncommon situation, nor is it a symptom of a crisis. There are couples that don’t have arguments, but which have been dead for quite some time. And there are others which do exactly the opposite. They fight relatively frequently. But, at the same time, they are capable of taking care of other aspects that make them an extraordinarily healthy couple.

Now, there are many ways to express our rights, interests or opinions. However, most of the time we fall into the trap of trying to prove that we’re right without thinking of the price we could ultimately be paying for actually winning the argument.

Discussions and arguments, at the end of the day, turn into a tennis match that reaches no productive conclusion. Nor does it contribute anything positive to either party. The members of the relationship end the conversation due to exhaustion. They are also left with a sense of bitterness within, just like the cold that seeps in on the chilliest days of winter.

Among the couples that don’t succeed, there are some patterns that we can identify. These patterns, which characterize broken couples, are usually somehow associated to ego or pride. Thanks to our pride, many times we end up on the losing end, and we have to ask ourselves if it is truly worth the fight.

Often times we interpret situations in a biased manner and believe that others are trying to hurt us, so we act accordingly. We either avoid the situation and don’t confront it, or we choose to attack the other person.