The Most Fragile People Are the Ones Who Appear the Strongest

The Most Fragile People Are the Ones Who Appear the Strongest

Last update: 17 May, 2017

The most fragile people are the ones who appear the strongest. The people who wear thick suits of armor and put on a brave face are often concealing a heart of glass, a deep sadness that they haven’t been able to resolve.

People who are secretly fragile are usually also pretty sensitive. A small act of gratitude or kindness can fill them with happiness. However, the smallest mistake or disappointment can drive them to extreme hopelessness. This hypersensitivity often clashes with the world around them.

“If you prick us, do we not bleed? If you tickle us, do we not laugh? If you poison us, do we not die?”

-William Shakespeare (Merchant of Venice)-

We all know those people who look like they can carry any weight that life throws on their shoulders, but make no mistake, they wear a mask of false strength. They wear a suit of armor, but if you touch it, you can see that the secret tears they’ve cried have caused it to rust. 

Every fragile person hides their sensitivity. Although they are wise, they have a high need for esteem. Their skin is very thin, and they instantly react to any kind of change, insult, or misunderstanding, which can sometimes feel threatening.

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Fragility and emotional vulnerability

Let’s start off by defining what we mean by emotional fragility. It has nothing to do with being weak. Above all, it’s seeing and understanding reality from a more intimate perspective, straight from the heart. But it also brings emotional vulnerability along with it.

In order to protect their delicate interior, they tend to put up different shields. Some people display a strong and energetic character in order to set limits. Sometimes it seems like they’re at war with the world. But it’s important to remember that people who are always guarded end up exhausting themselves from expending so much psychological and emotional energy.

Because living life in constant self-defense mode only creates more suffering.

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When people with fragile hearts have suffered a lot of damage, they become distrustful. They slowly start to develop a sensitive character and will interpret any action as threatening. Insignificant conversations turn into battles. Certain tones start to sound offensive. Like Leonardo da Vinci said, “where there is more sensitivity, there is more martyrdom.”

However, anyone can channel this fragility in a creative, healthy, and powerful way to reduce their suffering.

Turning your fragility into a strength

You’ve always been this way, and it feels like up until this moment, all you’ve been doing is trying to survive. As a kid, you created a fantasy world because you didn’t like what you saw. As a teenager, you came to the conclusion that nobody understood you and then you felt afraid. And now in adulthood, you feel like nobody loves you the way you deserve, and in addition to fear, you feel anger.

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”


You’ve been covering yourself up with more and more layers, disconnecting yourself completely from the only thing that can give you what you need: your self-esteem. Recognize that life isn’t a battlefield where you constantly have to defend yourself. Growing, maturing, and advancing involves reconnecting with yourself so you can stop seeing enemies where there are none. Below, we’ll explain how you can do this.

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Learn to survive in a world full of pins

People reject fragility almost instinctively. Perceiving ourselves as more sensitive is a threat to us, so we choose to put up walls. But it really becomes a problem when, after going through a bad experience, you get angry and constantly look for someone to blame out of fear of being hurt again.

To prevent this from happening, you have to be able to quell your hypersensitivity. If it feels like the whole world around you is full of pins, your thin skin and sensitive heart will burst at the slightest touch.

Try to stay calm, because sometimes you are your own worst enemy. Allow your mind to find balance. Don’t focus so much on what other people do or say to validate you. The only person who can validate you is yourself.

This exaggerated subjective view of everything around you will result in obsessive thoughts. Remember that people react to how you make them feel. If you’re always on the defensive, seeing threats around every corner, you’ll push people away. Don’t fall into this vicious cycle.

Sensitive people can find ways to express themselves through things like art, painting, music, and other creative activities. Find a way to channel your sensitivity in order to relieve the burden.

Finally, remember that being sensitive is a great virtue, but being hypersensitive can be a flaw. If you’re a little more fragile and emotional than everyone else, don’t view it as a curse. Being fragile is not the same as being weak, it’s perceiving everything around you more intensely. Take care of your self-esteem and take advantage of this gift.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.