Fight Against Your Fear and Win

22 October, 2016

I admit that I am afraid. The truth is that I’ve always been afraid. It’s not that I consider myself a coward that is afraid of everything that could happen. It’s just that there are things that for some reason unknown to me, scare me. And there are others that I have learned to be afraid of. However, today I’m going to try to fight against my fears and win.

Fear usually corners you and floods your mind. Being afraid is as if something was blocking you to the point that you are no longer the owner of your own being. You are now alienated. Sometimes, in fact, you can become a stranger to yourself. When I notice my fear, the world stops. Time becomes eternal, asking you for a reaction in order to keep moving forward.

Fear is a natural response 

Experiencing it is as natural as it is inevitable. So you should not feel embarrassed by it. We have all felt afraid at some point throughout our lives. Nobody can honestly say that they have never felt afraid, because it is simply not true. Maybe our fears are different or maybe you don’t want to see or recognize and admit your fears, but they are still just as valid and real.

“Humanity’s most ancient and intense emotion is fear, and the most ancient and intense fear is the fear of the unknown.” 
-H. P. Lovecraft-
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Besides, if you look at it rationally, it is normal for you to have felt afraid in many different ways. Sometimes over something that happened and that turned in a trauma that you had to overcome. Other times over something that was happening, and most of the time over everything that could happen in the future. Everything that hasn’t happened yet, but which you imagine.
Fear is like that: inopportune and opportune at the same time. It arrives right when you least want it to in order to make that specific moment of your life a victory. That is to say, fear presents itself and magnifies when you feel the weakest. But, when you manage to beat it, your victory and what you learn from it will also be magnified.

Fear is as natural as it is healthy

Despite you not wanting to feel it or liking its existence, despite the fact that you have to accept it as a natural part of your life, being afraid can also be healthy. Yes, I know it is hard to believe.

Fear can be a defense mechanism in cases when there is a danger or threat, and it is necessary for you to react to it quickly. It allows for your survival, the recognition of your limits and their expansion.

Fear helps me look at the world more carefully, go more slowly and avoid future damage. What happens is that there’s also that other emotion, which isn’t very healthy, because it comes close to panic and paralysis. Here is where you must take hold of reins of your personal me. You have to ask yourself “what is the worst thing that could happen to me?” and be brave.

“You don’t have to be afraid of poverty or exile, of prison, nor of death. What you should be afraid of is fear itself.”