Fight Against Your Fear and Win

I admit that I am afraid. The truth is that I’ve always been afraid. It’s not that I consider myself a coward that is afraid of everything that could happen. It’s just that there are things that for some reason unknown to me, scare me. And there are others that I have learned to be afraid of. However, today I’m going to try to fight against my fears and win.

Fear usually corners you and floods your mind. Being afraid is as if something was blocking you to the point that you are no longer the owner of your own being. You are now alienated. Sometimes, in fact, you can become a stranger to yourself. When I notice my fear, the world stops. Time becomes eternal, asking you for a reaction in order to keep moving forward.

Fear is a natural response

Experiencing it is as natural as it is inevitable. So you should not feel embarrassed by it. We have all felt afraid at some point throughout our lives. Nobody can honestly say that they have never felt afraid, because it is simply not true. Maybe our fears are different or maybe you don’t want to see or recognize and admit your fears, but they are still just as valid and real.

“Humanity’s most ancient and intense emotion is fear, and the most ancient and intense fear is the fear of the unknown.”

-H. P. Lovecraft-

Besides, if you look at it rationally, it is normal for you to have felt afraid in many different ways. Sometimes over something that happened and that turned in a trauma that you had to overcome. Other times over something that was happening, and most of the time over everything that could happen in the future. Everything that hasn’t happened yet, but which you imagine.

Fear is like that: inopportune and opportune at the same time. It arrives right when you least want it to in order to make that specific moment of your life a victory. That is to say, fear presents itself and magnifies when you feel the weakest. But, when you manage to beat it, your victory and what you learn from it will also be magnified.

Fear is as natural as it is healthy

Despite you not wanting to feel it or liking its existence, despite the fact that you have to accept it as a natural part of your life, being afraid can also be healthy. Yes, I know it is hard to believe.

Fear can be a defense mechanism in cases when there is a danger or threat, and it is necessary for you to react to it quickly. It allows for your survival, the recognition of your limits and their expansion.

Fear helps me look at the world more carefully, go more slowly and avoid future damage. What happens is that there’s also that other emotion, which isn’t very healthy, because it comes close to panic and paralysis. Here is where you must take hold of reins of your personal me. You have to ask yourself “what is the worst thing that could happen to me?” and be brave.

“You don’t have to be afraid of poverty or exile, of prison, nor of death. What you should be afraid of is fear itself.”
-Epicteto-

In order for you to dominate it and not the other way around, you need to know what has gotten you here and why you are feeling it. This is the only way you will be able to beat it: recognize the fear, analyze it internally and become aware that you can do it.

I will look fear in the face and be able to handle it

When you feel afraid, you aren’t who you really truly are, and you don’t behave how you would like to. Fear doesn’t let you sleep, doesn’t let you be happy. You can’t change if you don’t free yourself of the fear. No matter how hard you try, you won’t be able to truly live.

If you have identified with these words, then surely you have experience it in situations where loved ones have depended on you. Socially, others could take advantage of this fear and manipulate you, play with your needs and your life.

If that is the case, look into the face of your fears and believe that you can beat it. You can get rid of everything that is keeping you from moving forward. They can take everything away from you. You can be left with nothing. But only you can make the fear go away by accepting that your life deserves more of life than of fear in it.

“Emotions like love, friendship, kindness or solidarity don’t produce fear, since they are sincere, intangible and belong to the heart. And they are capable of changing this planet, of filling our soul and making us feel the beauty of the world around us.”
-Pedro González Núñez-