Feeling People Don't Divorce Reason From Emotion

Feeling People Don't Divorce Reason From Emotion
Raquel Aldana

Written and verified by the psychologist Raquel Aldana.

Last update: 13 January, 2022

Eduardo Galeano used to say that “the language that tells the truth is the language of feeling” and that the best people are those who are capable of thinking by feeling and feeling by thinking. He said he tried to write in ‘a feel thinking language able to tie the heart and mind together, as they’ve been divorced’.

However, it seems that no matter how hard we try, we tend to act with our heart following the logic of our mind and vice versa. We’re whole, we think and feel at the same time, and this is how we approach reality.

woman smiling symbolizing empathy

Managing what we feel is essential to remember what we deserve

It’s by feeling and thinking that we tend to relate to love, friendship, disappointments, and joy, as well as our angels and demons. It seems we simply can’t tear ourselves apart or divorce our senses from our thoughts.

When we find ourselves in complicated relationships, we’re unable to only guide ourselves by what we feel. Indeed, sometimes, we have to put part of what we feel aside in order to apply certain reasoning.

However, in any decision and event in our lives, our emotions and feelings will always influence us. Thank goodness that this the case, because, if it were not, we’d all be robots.

Woman surrounded by feathers

Thoughtful sensitivity, the basis of empathy

Some people have more and some have less emotional sensitivity. For example, there are those who think and act according to the belief that, in today’s world, if we’re sensitive and listen to our emotions, our circumstances will devour us.

That’s why it’s necessary to reflect. Because, in order to really feel alive, it’s essential that we both think and feel. For example, how can we raise our children prioritizing only logic? How can we love if we always give more importance to reason?

Sometimes, we seem to think that highlighting reason over emotion is a sign of strength and that our emotions and sensitivity are signs of weakness. However, nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, it’s the combination of both that makes us great.

Maintaining a thoughtful philosophy is a way of embracing life and who we really are. In fact, feeling-thinking people are the ones who possess the greatest charisma and the greatest capacity to connect with their environment.

A heart, suggesting feeling people.

A feeling-thinking person is a balanced person who offers others confidence. They have good intentions, emotional intelligence, power, and strength. This allows them to spread their wings and unleash their purposes on the world.

Thoughtful people are the ones who best understand the importance of small details when it comes to negotiating the world. They understand that life is meaningless without the ties that bind us and make us respect each other.

“We act with our heart, but we also use our head, and when we combine the two things like this, we’re feeling-thoughtful people”

-Eduardo Galeano-

Celebrate the marriage of reason and heart

We must be thankful and remember that good things can come at any time. Sometimes, they’ll come thanks to our feelings and, at others, thanks to our reasoning.

Therefore, it’s important that we don’t divorce logic from emotion. That’s because both are needed. In fact, we need them to understand the world and what happens to us, as well as to make decisions.

Our mind is a feeling mind that collaborates with our environment. Furthermore, it constantly tries to connect with others and make every one of our relationships more satisfactory. However, we don’t always know how to balance the scales.

highly sensitive people

A good social brain is one that balances its relationships based on a feeling language that balances both reason and emotion. Indeed, neither is better or worse, inferior or superior. However, without emotional sensitivity, we can’t understand the world. We need both sensitivity and reason.

This determines our happiness, and, at the same time, the quality of our thoughts. After all, it all comes down to the fact that love isn’t what we want to feel, but what we feel without wanting to.

We can’t really imagine anyone not feeling this way. Because thinking without feeling (or vice versa) is seeing without seeing, listening without listening, loving without loving, and living without living. This is as impossible as the existence of a sincere and joyous smile without the corresponding feeling of true happiness.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.