Our Fear of Being Single Makes Us Conformists

Our Fear of Being Single Makes Us Conformists

Last update: 23 February, 2017

Nowadays, romantic relationships have changed. Now it’s not that important to create a family and have kids. Instead, now we pay more attention to our well-being. We try to put a stop to the inertia that can lead us to complying with past customs, without being what we truly want to be. In fact, often the opposite happens. In trying to always go against the current, we don’t do something we really wanted to do.

Despite the rebellion against what is considered antiquated, as a society we are still afraid of being single and ending up alone. This fear is called anuptaphobia. It is a fear that tends to appear especially as the years pass, and we still haven’t found the right mate. Anuptaphobia affects women more than men. The reason to blame could be their biological clock.

It’s true that we are more independent and that relationships have changed. Sexual relations don’t necessarily imply that love exists between two people. Children are now not the highest level of importance. So much so, that more and more women are having children at 30 and 40 years old. But, are we really as independent and “liberal” as we think we are?

You might be very focused on your job and career. And, right now, relationships may not be a big worry of yours. But, when the time comes, especially around the time you turn 30, something starts making us uneasy. If you didn’t already sense it, you start feeling the need to find a mate. This phenomenon happens to quite a lot of people.