Emotional Decompression

Sometimes you feel like you're going to explode. You're like a balloon that inflates more and more with every disappointment, fear, anguish or worry. The technique of emotional decompression can help.
Emotional Decompression
Valeria Sabater

Written and verified by the psychologist Valeria Sabater.

Last update: 04 January, 2022

The technique of emotional decompression is used to help in states of intense and sustained stress over time. Indeed, at these times, you’re actually like a fragile balloon that’s inflated as you accumulate the worries, sadness, and discomfort that everyday life can bring you. In the end, the load is so immense you simply don’t know what to do.

Aesop said that “a crust eaten in peace is better than a banquet partaken in anxiety”. This is true. However, you tend to be forced to function in environments where banquets are held, anxiety is at a maximum level, and pressure is a constant.

There comes a time when your uncertainty, nervousness, and confusion accumulate more and more. You become ‘swollen’ with silent suffering that prevents you from reacting and even being yourself. You need tools and new approaches to deal with this emotional burden. The technique of emotional decompression can help.

Many of the unexpressed emotions accumulate within you increase your general discomfort and suffering. The technique of emotional decompression allows you to channel and understand these internal realities.

Stressed man who needs to apply the "pumping" technique

The technique of emotional decompression

Ariel Leve is a renowned American journalist famous for writing a book called An Abbreviated Life. In this work, she explains her memories, and especially her childhood. In the 1970s, she lived in a Manhattan apartment, where Andy Warhol and other celebrities of the time often threw their wild parties.

She spent those nights locked in her room, scared and unable to sleep. Added to this, she had to live with a mother (a renowned artist) with a narcissistic, fickle, carefree, and also violent personality. The suffering of those years made her accumulate a series of emotions that acted to the detriment of her physical and psychological health.

She was also aware of how this negative and uneven mood ‘infected’ her environment as well. Indeed, the accumulation of adverse experiences, complex emotions, and memories translated into trauma. The same kind that thousands of people all over the world also suffer.

The technique of emotional decompression can be useful in these cases. Let’s take a closer look.

Channel to release

It’s often said that the basic law of the universe responds to a principle. That’s the idea that energy isn’t created or destroyed, it’s transformed. This phrase was actually formulated by Antoine Lavoisier, and although it applies to the field of thermodynamics, it’s also useful in the world of emotions.

Thus, the technique of emotional decompression is an extremely useful resource in the context of post-traumatic stress.  In fact, Dr. Stephen Regal, an expert in trauma, conducted a study that endorsed the effectiveness of this resource in psychotherapy.

Emotional decompression consists of working on emotions, paying attention to mental schemas, and releasing what’s not useful to you, leaving space for well-being to enter.

The repressed emotional energy that you accumulate over the years is buried in the basement of your mind. That emotional dust ends up making you sick without you realizing it.

Visualization and association: naming what hurts

Emotional decompression requires you to perform a visualization exercise. Keep in mind that the complexity of the internal pressure that emotional pain generates means that you tend to be afraid to look inside yourself. However, if you carry out a simple exercise mediated by deep relaxation, it may be easier. It consists of the following:

  • Close your eyes and relax. Breathe deeply and, when you feel relaxed, visualize a maze that you’re gradually and calmly entering.
  • As you progress, you’ll find things that worry and hurt you. Let your mind flow by itself and take you toward those complex and even painful dimensions. Get in touch with them.
  • When you come across these inner realities, describe them and explain how they make you feel. Translate them into words. Use the first that come to mind even if they don’t make any particular sense. For instance, pain, fear, darkness, etc. Also, don’t hesitate to vent your emotions by crying if you need to.

Emotional decompression involves releasing your hidden feelings and emotions into the open in order to heal them and transform them into healthier states.

The key to emotional decompression is accepting your emotions as they are, as they come to you.

Woman blowing a dandelion representing the "pumping" technique

Emotional decompression: understanding and transforming to release

After the exercise of visualization and release or emotional release, something concrete may happen. Indeed, when releasing emotions, it’s common to suffer an emotional breakdown. All your accumulated energy is exposed and you feel overwhelmed. Furthermore, there’s an excess of sadness and even anger.

Emotional decompression requires you to keep purging and working on those emotions. It’s not enough just to remove them, you have to understand and transform them.

This is how you do it:

  • Find the causes and origins of your pain, anguish, and worry. If it helps, write them down.
  • Now, it’s time to transform those emotions. What you feel can’t just disappear. Remember the law of thermodynamics we mentioned earlier. No one can magically volatilize their anguish or guilt. You have to rebuild your thoughts and transform your emotions, leading you to a more relaxed and harmonious state.
  • The right way to do this is by reframing your ideas, speaking compassionately to yourself, and applying a more rational and less emotional approach.
  • Reformulate your harmful thought patterns and attitudes, release your guilt, turn off your resentment, and forgive yourself if it’s necessary. Assume that there are things that can’t be changed or controlled, but that you can control your reactions to everything that’s happened.

In essence, the technique of emotional decompression is a useful and effective resource that anyone can carry out. It’s almost like a fire, capable of extinguishing all the unpleasant sensations associated with your repressed emotions. However, it’s a complex process, and for this reason, you need the help of a specialized professional to carry it out.

All cited sources were thoroughly reviewed by our team to ensure their quality, reliability, currency, and validity. The bibliography of this article was considered reliable and of academic or scientific accuracy.

  • Stephen Regel (2009) A guide to psychological debriefing – managing emotional decompression and post traumatic stress disorder, Counselling and Psychotherapy Research, 9:2, 129-130, DOI: 10.1080/14733140902750982
  • Seligman, M.E.P. and Maier, S.F. (1967). Failure to escape traumatic shock. Journal of Experimental Psychology, 74, 1-9.
  • Overmier, J. B. and Seligman, M.E.P. (1967). Effects of inescapable shock upon subsequent escape and avoidance responding. Journal of Comparative and Physiological Psychology, 63, 28-33.

This text is provided for informational purposes only and does not replace consultation with a professional. If in doubt, consult your specialist.