
One of the biggest responsibilites in our lives is raising our kids. In order to help our kids develop and have the potential for a happy, healthy life, we must teach them how to love and be loved. Therefore, it is important to remember…
Sometimes it takes little for us to lose our temper and for anger to take control. Maybe we’re extremely tired and feel more irritable than normal, or maybe a mean comment has put us out of sorts, or maybe everything is just pushing us to the limit.
In these moments, anger takes advantage of us. We can’t manage our anger and we lash out at everything that moves, even though it has nothing to do with the reason we’re angry.
These situations consume us, causing us to behave aggressively, irresponsibly, and sometimes even cruelly. After the storm, we may feel very embarrassed and disconcerted, and the inability to recognize ourselves can start to eat away at us.
However, even if we think it’s impossible to manage our emotions in those times, there are alternatives for controlling anger. We give some examples below:
We should forget the assumption that anger is not good. It’s normal to get angry and even furious sometimes, which is different from not knowing how to manage our anger.
It’s also worth mentioning that while anger is a healthy negative emotion, uncontrolled and disproportionate anger is unhealthy. This is known as rage. We should always try to keep our anger from growing into rage. But how?
Everyone should become aware of and explore the things that make them angry, bother them, and contribute to feelings of distress, injustice, inequality, etc. Anger is always a product of how we interpret things.
Even though we should remember that everyone is different, usually when we start to feel annoyed or angry, our heart rate accelerates, we feel like our insides are shrinking, and we feel hot and nervous.
As we already said, anger can go from slight irritation to intense rage and fury. So the belief that it’s better to get our anger out instead of keeping it inside is completely false. If you’re able to identify the first symptoms, you can cut it off at its roots before it runs wild.
To do so, you must learn certain relaxation exercises like interrupting your thoughts or controlling your breathing (breathe at a rhythm of 2 or 3 seconds of inhalation and 2 or 3 seconds of exhalation to return to normal). You can also listen to music, do some physical exercise, watch TV, visualize a relaxing image, etc.
Maybe you feel like your thoughts are cloudy, or they’re piling up, thwarting your attempts to organize your mind. That’s why it’s important to recognize the kind of thoughts that arise when you get angry.
In this sense, you have to fight with your thoughts in order to make them more balanced so that “they always leave me stranded” turns into something like “sometimes they don’t act the way they should, but sometimes they do.” You can make a comparative list and keep it close at hand whenever necessary.
If we’re able to manage our thoughts and the physical symptoms of rage, we won’t behave aggressively. But it’s pretty likely that the time will come, so we have to learn how to manage it. How? By following three steps:
A lack of sleep and an excess of stress can predispose you to irritability and angry behavior. That’s why it’s important to confront these situations head on, evaluate them, and not delay in resolving them.
Sometimes we take things too personally, and as a consequence, we make hasty conclusions about other people’s intentions. It’s important to improve our social communication and follow the advice below:
If you take care of all of these aspects, as well as your self-image, you’ll probably be less susceptible and sensitive to getting carried away by disproportionate anger.