Nowadays raising a child has become so complicated, you always have the option of spoiling them. This method is more simple, although it is just as or even more costly. But, how can we know if we are spoiling them or not? Which way should I choose: raising or spoiling? The choice, of course, is up to the parents, guardians, educators and, even society in general. We aren’t going to highlight the importance of television in the education of children , which at times is greater than it seems, just to not make this article even longer.
We are also not going to focus on the discussions about whether some actions are good or bad for the raising of children. No, we’re going to try to keep our distance in order to give objective rules. Behaviors to put into practice in the upbringing of your children, if you don’t want to spoil them.
“Educate children and you won’t have to punish men”
The 10 commandments to spoil your child
Although there are many ways to spoil your children, there are 10 rules that are as simple as the ten commandments. If you follow them, no matter how unlucky you are, you’ll surely achieve the desired objective.
Emilio Calatayud, the well-known judge in minor court, leaves this decalogue for posterity: (certain modifications have been made in order to enrich the article.)
Start giving your child everything he asks for during his childhood. That way, he’ll grow up convinced that he owns the entire world and has the right to do whatever he wants. Whenever and however he wants to do it.Don’t worry about their ethical or spiritual education. Wait for them to be of age in order for them to choose freely. Surely they will learn on their own the values that nobody taught them and, of course, put them into practice .When your child says naughty words, laugh about it! This will encourage him to say even funnier things. Reinforcing the use of bad words and actions will turn him into a praised person. And we already know that everyone loves a clown.Don’t scold them or tell them that any of what they do is wrong. This could produce a complex a guilt for the youngster. Nobody wants their child to feel guilty, even if they are at fault. It’s best to buy them a toy and hope it doesn’t repeat itself next time.Pick up everything they leave tossed around : books, shoes, clothes, toys. That way he will get used to pushing his responsibility onto others. Also, when he gets married, he’ll know who has to clean up the house.Let him read everything that falls into his lap . Take care that his plates, silverware and glasses are sterilized, but not about whether his mind is filling with garbage. Let him watch television and play on his console all day long.Fight with your partner in front of your child often. That way he wont be too affected when the family falls apart completely one day, maybe due to his own behavior.Give your child all the money he wants to spend. Don’t let him suspect that in order to have money you have to work. That way they won’t get the idea of seeking an independent life where they can fend for themselves.Satisfy all of your child’s desires, appetites, commodities and pleasures. Sacrifice and austerity could produce frustrations that will distort their future personality.Be on their side in any conflict they may have with their professors and neighbors. Think that all those people are prejudice against your child and truly only want to bother him. Why even think that your child could be lying if “my child always says the truth”.
“Children have to be tolerant with adults.”
-Antoine de Saint-Exupéry-
Education sets the foundation of adult individuals
As we stated in the beginning, we could perceive education as a more or less complicated task, but what doesn’t tend to produce responsible adults is the absence of clear limits when these individuals are young. Let’s not forget that a big part of the foundation of who they will be in the future is established during their childhood. Be it for good or for evil.
Thus, those were the keys to spoiling your child. Please understand the tone of irony and sarcasm of this article. Not following these rules will make your children be better people. And, of course, “when your child is already a delinquent, don’t forget to proclaim that there’s nothing you could have ever done to help him.”
